strategies

Mama Drama: Direction Following Folly

Dear Mama Drama: My three-year-old son struggles with following directions and becomes stiff and unresponsive when he doesn’t want to do what is asked of him. We end up either letting him get away with not following directions or having to physically force him to follow them. Neither strategy is really working and he tends to fight back when we try to force him. (photo credit) The behavior usually happens when he is being asked to stop something more interesting or fun (like playing) and switch to a task that is less interesting to him (like cleaning up or washing his hands for dinner). I think it may be a learned behavior as his dad also shuts down and won’t talk when frustrated. I am struggling to support him and have no idea what to do. ~Stumped Mama Dear Stumped: It is fairly common fo...

Mama Drama: Attention Anxiety – Is it ADHD?

Dear Mama Drama: (photo credit) My seven-year-old daughter is struggling in school. Her teachers say she daydreams and is off in her own world so she doesn’t get her work done. At home she also needs lots of reminders and support to get things done. Someone suggested that she may have attention deficit disorder, but I’m not sure what that means. I’ve seen kids who are very hyper and have trouble sitting still, but this doesn’t fit my daughter. While she needs help getting ready for school and keeping track of her things, she can also sit and draw or read for hours. Other people have suggested she might need medication, which seems really scary to me. Can you give me some insight and ideas for how to support her? ~Anxious Mama

Mama Drama: Bully Busting Basics

Dear Mama Drama: My 5-year-old son is entering kindergarten and is the sweetest kid. He gets along with everyone but I fear he will be a target for bullying because he refuses to retaliate. What skills can I teach him to stick up for himself and as a mother, how should I react when kids are mean? P.S. This happened right in front of me the other day (kids bullying him at Jungle Quest) and you’d better believe I FREAKED out on them as Mama Bear. Not my best moment but they stopped. Need tips. 🙂 ~ No Bull Mama (photo credit) Dear No Bull:

Mama Drama: Homework H-E-Double Toothpicks!!

Dear Mama Drama: My nine- year-old daughter takes an excessive amount of time to do her homework every day. If she would just do the work, she would be done in thirty minutes to an hour. Instead, she whines, complains, cries, fights, distracts herself, etc., for hours on end. By the time she is done we are all angry and exhausted and her self-esteem is in the toilet. (photo credit) She does have a significant amount of homework assigned, but it all should be work she is capable of completing on her own.  I know she needs to go out and play, but she spends so much time avoiding her work that she never gets outside. I am at a loss and hate the way this homework issue is impacting all of us. I don’t want to bother her teachers because they always seem so busy already. ~ Homework Hating Mama (...