saying no

The Lost Art of No

It’s often our first word. We learn how to use it often and with abandon. We wish our toddlers and preschoolers wouldn’t say it. We hope our teenagers do. We grow up and forget how to use it. We think saying it makes us weak. (stock photo by lusi) We somehow correlate it with disappointment. We don’t want to be impolite. We don’t think anyone else will do what needs to be done, so we justify not saying it. We think not saying it will make everyone happy. Deep down, we all know it’s impossible to make everyone happy, but we’re capable of anything. And everything. So, we don’t care. And we don’t say it. We think if we don’t say it, we’ll have more power. We group it together with other things we don’t want to leave on the table. Leaving things on the table is unacceptable w...