The Kid Blender: Figuring Out My Place As a Step-parent
In this day and age of divorces and remarriages, I have gotten many glimpses of what other families go through as commitments change and kids are caught in the middle. And as I have watched other people struggle to work things out with new children, custody schedules, work schedules, and different personalities in general, I have silently asked myself this question more than once:
What in the heck are they doing?
The Kid Blender: How Should I Introduce My Kids to Someone New?
So, you’ve been dating someone for a little while and have decided that it might be time to introduce this new person to your children. Congratulations!
Unfortunately, The Brady Bunch started at Mike and Carol’s wedding so they didn’t offer us any guidelines on how they got to that place in their lives where all of the kids’ problems with each other could be happily solved in less than a half an hour. This is regrettable because when I’m faced with a family problem, I often ask myself, “Now, how would Carol handle this?” And without an episode about how they all met…I felt completely lost when I had to figure it out on my own
The Kid Blender: When Should I Introduce My Kids to Someone New?
So, you’ve met Mr. Right or at least a possible candidate. And as we all know, there is no way to confirm that he is actually the “real thing” until he has been introduced to the kids and you see how everyone interacts. And that means getting to the next step: Setting up the introduction.
In the beginning stages, when you’re thinking about introducing your child to someone new, it’s important to remember that you and your child may be on 2 different timelines: You may be excited about this new stage in your life while your child may be dreading the changes he/she knows are on the horizon. If you’ve been through a divorce or suffered a loss, chances are you child knows that you may not want to be alone forever. And that means more adjustments for them.