Teetering on Thin Ice–When Friendships Save
There are three words whose perfection and beauty are unsurpassed in the English language:
NO ASSEMBLY REQUIRED.
(What? Did you think I was going to be a sentimental fool and profess something sappy like “I love you?”)
I have been mechanically-challenged my entire life. I will admit it is part laziness, part impatience, part knowing there is a man somewhere to help me and part incompetence. The most part.
Once upon a time, I destroyed our refrigerator’s ice machine. If you missed that doozy of a confession, just know it involved black nail polish and a grinder. And an inordinate amount of dark, goopy ugliness.
I am an ice addict and a day without cubes is like a day without a hit for a junkie. So, I immediately tackled the ice machine with soap, water and even nail polish remover. But most of the unit was unsalvageable. My husband Jamie reluctantly ordered a $50 hunk of plastic to replace it and I waited with great anticipation for the part to arrive. Frustrated, he banned me from buying ice cube trays or bags of ice–assuredly a new form of spousal abuse.
I was thrilled when I finally received the part until I noticed the two most dreaded words in the English language: Assembly Required.
To The Friend I Never Called
I’m not even sure you remember that time a few months ago when we ran into each other at the store. Had it been six months, two years, five years since we had seen each other?
We hugged. We chatted. We shared stories about how our kids are growing up too fast. Our mouths gaped when we realized the kids were so much older than we remembered them. It was a lovely ten minutes of my day. I’m quite sure you felt the same.
Our parting words went something like this, “It was so great to see you! What a fun surprise! I’ll call you and we can go out for coffee or go to the park with the kids!”
I don’t know who promised the phone call. It was probably me. And I didn’t call.
On the other hand, maybe it was you who flippantly suggested a phone call follow-up to our incidental meeting. And you didn’t call.
I’m sorry. I’d love to see you again for ten minutes or longer just about any day! But you know what? Our lives just aren’t connected like they used to be and we don’t need to feel badly about that!
Let’s enjoy those times when we serendipitously get to chat in the parking lot at the grocery store or find one another at the same friend’s anniversary party! Some day our paths may travel side-by-side again and we’ll have a blast together. But for now, let’s not get caught up in making plans that we know we can’t keep.
I love you and I’ll be seeing you.
Jenna lives in Littleton and loves connecting with friends old and new in parking lots and at parties… anywhere will do! When she’s not hanging out with family and friends she’s probably just “busy.” Lame.
P.S. Have you seen this video that has gone viral? A mom creates a hilarious video to apologize to parents without kids.
How can I navigate our unruly neighbor child and her screaming mother?
Hi Mamas! I could really use some advice! I’m completely stumped!
(Image Courtesy of Kevin Shorter)
Long story short, my 5-year-old daughter’s “best friend” lives across the street. They are in the same kindergarten class and play outside of school frequently!
I have come upon a rather large issue! Considering the fact that our children play well, are in the same class and live across the street from one another I have become “friends” with the little girls mother. The more I am around her the more I am starting to see we are two TOTALLY different families.
This mother uses yelling as her form of discipline. Not a slight raise of the voice, I mean a red face, veins popping out SCREAM! She also encourages her 2 and 5 year old to say cuss words, then laughs at them.
How to Make Love Potion
The greatest thing about love – it’s an innate gift – it lives inside of us and we can, and should, give it freely to others. Appropriate to the relationship and situation, love can do amazing, life changing things. A hug, a kiss, a pat on the back, a helping hand, a kind smile, a word of encouragement, a favor, a simple note, a special gift, a promise, a prayer…there are thousands of ways we can love someone else, and the most remarkable thing about love is that the heart can not give love without receiving the beautifully divine consequences of unselfishly loving another.