divorce

5 Tips to Foster a Peaceful Colorado Divorce and Co-parenting Strategy

We often view divorce as an event. As if one day you announce, “I’m getting a divorce,” and the next day your marriage is over. The truth is, it’s a journey. It’s a process. It’s a method by which you transition out of your marriage and re-prioritize your relationships, especially your relationship with yourself. Sometimes there is still love. Sometimes the love that once was has long been extinguished.  But one thing is certain, hardly anyone leaves their marriage hoping for a nightmare, never-ending, high conflict, expensive divorce that never ends. They breed animosity, undermine already broken relationships and drain precious resources of time, energy and money from the family. But it doesn’t have to be that way. If your divorce is headed down the (legal) rabbit hole, there ...

Custody Battles in the Time of COVID-19

Protecting Your Family Through the Toughest Times It may seem obvious, but you need to think about your child’s best interests when going through your custody arrangements. In a time where your children might not have any buffer between them and their parents’ personal lives, you will need to be even more sensitive than usual. We’ve seen a lot of divorces through our firm, and not all of them were pleasant or collaborative, and none of them would be made easier by a stay-at-home order. Of the messy divorces we’ve handled, some of the most difficult arguments we’ve seen are related to custody arrangements. The thing is, not all the parents we’ve negotiated with and argued with are bad parents. In fact, a lot of them are great and loving parents. In times such as these, when your entire case...

Divorce, the Gambler and apologies to Kenny Rogers

When it comes to parenting, you’ve got to know when to hold ’em. Know when to scold ’em. Know when to walk away. And know when to run to the therapists. I’ve got it all down pat. EXCEPT the scolding part. This is where my kids would roll on the floor laughing like people who’ve recently discovered that, indeed, a platypus should be feared. They’d be quick to correct me by saying that Mom has NO PROBLEM in the scolding department. But oh, how I do. Or DID. Like any mother worth her salt, I had my excuses reasons for lacking in disciplining skills. Initially, I blamed it on the divorce several years ago. It was then that I seemed to lose all perspective. Not to mention part of my backbone. The three-year-old wants to stay up late watching Sponge Bob? Well,...

My mom: A forever student whose forgiveness and vivacity are a wonderful example

Dear Mom: I am not sure how to begin a letter to someone who is responsible for my existence here. We have so many memories and I learn more from you in my adulthood than ever (having more than something to do with my maturity).  Some of my favorite memories from childhood involve parties, food and always something creative. One of my first memories with you, was of the smell of clay as you were throwing pots in the garage of our house.  I loved the smell and I was captivated by the graceful movement of your hands, molding the clay.  You would squeeze the sponge and I would stare, trying not to blink, as a big lump of mud would magically form into a beautiful bowl or a vase or be pulled into a plate.  I was amazed at how your thumb would create a groove around the outsi...

How can I navigate my marriage problems with a child in the midst?

Dear Mama Drama: My husband and I have recently been struggling with our relationship. We are going to counseling, but I’m concerned about how the situation and our interactions are impacting our three-year-old son. (Photo Credit) I don’t know how much he understands when things get tense between my husband and I or when one of us needs to leave due to intense feelings. We don’t argue in front of him, but there are times when the tension is thick and I know he can feel it. We are contemplating separating and I am wondering how to talk with him about this if that happens as well as how much to tell him about what is going on. Any advice would be appreciated.

Assess, Ask and Act: How You Can Support Someone Through Loss and Transition

Assess, Ask, and Act: The three steps to successfully and sincerely helping a friend through loss and transition.