Trying to support a friend or family member while they are going through a major life transition can be a very helpless feeling. We don’t know what to do, what to say, or how to act. Are we being supportive enough? Are we too much “in their business”? I haven’t heard from her in awhile…does that mean she wants me to leave her alone?
My “major life transition” happened four years ago when I became a widow. Since then, I have realized that the need for support doesn’t just happen when someone dies: Divorce, job loss, infertility…so many things can completely change the scope or our lives. And in fact, that’s what loss is: Losing the life you thought you were going to have.