Motherhood

A love letter to my mom: “I never understood”

Mom,⁣ ⁣ I never understood why you seemed grouchy on some days 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘐 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘢 𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 and realized how bone-tired you were and underappreciated you felt.⁣ ⁣ I never understood why it took so long for you to get ready 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘐 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘢 𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 and realized you were too busy doing everything to get 𝘶𝘴 ready, and you came last.⁣ ⁣ I never understood why you would say give me five minutes when I wanted to play 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘐 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘢 𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 and just wanted a second to breathe in-between tasks.⁣ ⁣ I never understood why you would lose it over the smallest things 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘐 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘢 𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 and realized it was a buildup of frustration, anxiety, and stress that had you snapping and not the spilled cheerios all over the floor.⁣ ⁣ I never understood why you got mad at me when I got out of bed every ten minutes...

Mom judging: We’re ALL in this together

Breastfed or Formula-fed,⁣  ⁣ sleep training or co-sleeping,⁣ potty trained at two or potty trained at four, ⁣ Stay At Home Mom or Working Mom,⁣ ⁣ iPad or no iPad,⁣ ⁣ epidural or natural birth,⁣ ⁣ c-section or vaginal delivery,⁣ ⁣ made-from-scratch-organic everything or non-organic and order in at times,⁣ ⁣ crawled at six months or crawled at one year,⁣ ⁣ pro-junk food or against junk food,⁣ ⁣ portraying a perfect life on Instagram or embracing your mess,⁣ ⁣ Holding the baby “too much” or “too little,”⁣ ⁣ pacifier or no pacifier,⁣ ⁣ all our kids will struggle with something,⁣ whether it’s their mental health,⁣ making friends,⁣ learning,⁣ or a tough diagnosis⁣ to name a few,⁣ ⁣ and none of them will be perfect despite all the made-from-scratch food and breast milk we get into their gro...

No Growing UP (and how they keep ignoring us!)

Now that we’re in the trenches with teenagers, I fondly remember way back when I instituted the rule at our house: NO GROWING UP! Of course, this was met with resistance as the kids gleefully retorted, “YES to growing up!” I fondly remember when Hadley and Bode were both at the stage where I wished I could bottle them up and keep them that way forever. We were finally past the sometimes-tedious baby stage and they were both reasonably independent. They were delighted by the most simple things and the world was magical to them. At 2 1/2 years old, Bode had yet to take The Descent Into Hell That Was the Terrible 3s and Hadley (who would be turning 5 in May) had blossomed into a story-telling machine. She would spend hours writing “books” and often took that long...

Positive parenting: Harmful parenting tools we need to unlearn

We recently stumbled upon the Instagram feed @BigLifeJournal and what a treasure trove of fantastic insights and advice for parents. We especially liked this post on the Four Pillars of positive parenting:  Harmful parenting tools we need to unlearn: Unlearn punishing emotions: “Why are you crying over such a small thing? Go to your room.” Instead, relearn setting boundaries on behavior: “I know you are so angry at your brother but hitting is not OK.” Unlearn Shame-based strategies: “You’re so ungrateful. Why didn’t you say thnk you?” Relearn skill-building approaches: “How can you show your gratitude for that gift? Do you want to write a note?” Unlearn making kids feel bad to encourage positive behavior: “Don’t b...

New moms: hold the mother, not just the baby

Hold the mother, not the baby.⁣   Because the baby’s being taken care of—⁣ fed, snuggled, and given all the love in the world—⁣ by not only the mother,⁣ but her partner, grandparents, siblings, cousins, and friends.⁣ ⁣ But the mother,⁣ may have gaps in her mind from lack of sleep,⁣ may be mechanical in her motions as she’s healing,⁣ may feel more like a mess than a mother,⁣ may be sitting in bed, crying, feeling overwhelmed in her body and life,⁣ may be full of mom guilt because in her mind, “she’s not good enough,”⁣ and she’s bleeding, wincing in pain, swollen and emotional.⁣ ⁣ And the mother’s that baby’s whole world and needs to be seen, so she doesn’t disappear into that postpartum fog.⁣ ⁣ So, hold the mother, not the baby.⁣ ⁣ A mother agrees that her...

Parenting through our kids’ mistakes (and our own)

The other day our family sat down to eat dinner out on our patio and my daughter left the door open so our dog got out. It was no big deal. He ran right back in after being called. But when my daughter sat down with us, she asked, “Was that my fault? Did I leave the door open?” In a soft voice, I said, “It doesn’t need to be anyone’s fault. It can just be something that happened–a mistake or an accident.” “Well, I’m sorry,” she said. “It’s OK, honey,” I said. “I just don’t want this to be a house where we blame all the time…where accidents turn into shame. There’s no reason for that.” The family kind of looked at me like, “Man, why’s Mom always gotta be so deep.” Bu...

Mother’s Day in Denver 2023: The Ultimate Guide to Brunch, Gifts & More

Mark your calendars for Sunday, May 14, 2023, because Mother’s Day is almost here! From unique gifts from your favorite Colorado artisans to brunch to tea, we have the Ultimate Guide to enjoying Mother’s Day in Denver. Don’t miss our annual gift guide and scroll down for Mother’s Day events and brunch. Tip: We will be updating this list frequently so be sure to check back!  Mother’s Day Gift Ideas for Denver Moms Wellness Getaways For experiential gifts, there’s nothing better than Colorado’s unique wellness getaways, retreats, programs and clubs. A few of our favorites: Boulder Open Space and Mountain Parks offers Shinrin Yoku, the Japanese art of forest bathing, a research-based framework for supporting healing and wellness through immersion in fore...

Celebrating Women Visionaries for Women’s History Month

Throughout the year and especially during Women’s History Month, Comcast NBCUniversal is committed to highlighting and sharing the stories of women who are building a better, more equitable world. This month, Comcast is highlighting Women Visionaries – generations of female trailblazers who have courageously changed the world through civil rights activism, entrepreneurship, community investment, entertainment, and more. Xfinity All month long, you can explore Xfinity’s curated collection of our favorite female-directed films and stories with strong women leads. Customers can access the destination by saying “Women’s History Month” into the Xfinity Voice Remote. Additionally, available exclusively on the Black Experience on Xfinity and Xumo is The Black Beauty Effect, a three-part docuserie...

Celebrate ‘Women In Their Infinite Forms’ in Denver

Be sure to check out Celebrating Women Visionaries for Women’s History Month.  Women are to be celebrated and a fantastic place to do it right here in Denver! Denver Milk Market, the 16-concept all-local food hall by Denver Chef Frank Bonanno, and LoDo’s Dairy Block micro-district, are once again celebrating Women’s History Month by hosting Women In Their Infinite Forms, a special March art installation in partnership with Athena Project.  The 10 participating Colorado artists for 2023 include Summer Allen, Elsa Carenbauer, Teresa Castaneda, Anna Gross, Courtney Griffin, Calla Michaelides, Denise Richardson, Lexi Richey, Sarah Tenney and S.L. Yang. Each artist was asked to create their interpretation of the theme using table...

Expecting your First Baby? Find Your Denver Mom Tribe!

Whether you’re expecting your first or you just had your first baby, please don’t isolate yourself. All those feelings you’re having are NORMAL and it’s not just you! Join us to find your own New Mom’s Group in Denver.   We have a Saturday meeting at noon on MOST Saturdays–it’s a FREE Mamistad Introductory Meeting. Come meet other new moms and find out how easy it is to be a part of your own Mama Tribe.    New Member Zoom Call  Saturday, March 23, 2023; 10 a.m. RSVP here: https://www.mamistad.com/event-details/new-member-zoom-chat-3-25   Mamistad offers 2 types of groups:   1) VIRTUAL MOMS GROUPS – with moms due within your due-date month in varying locations (FREE for a limited time).   AND/OR   2) LOC...

Broomfield Mother and Daughter Promote Positivity and Girl Power with Wild Ones Threads

March 8 is International Women’s Day, a time to celebrate the achievements of women and girls. Colorado is fortunate to have incredible women leaders in politics, business and cultural change, including the fearless females behind Wild Ones Threads.  Broomfield-based Mother and Daughter team Nicole and Airlie Locken, age 10, have always shared a passion for creativity, kindness, and hard work. They dreamed of launching a business focused on spreading positivity and authenticity. When the COVID-19 pandemic forced schools to close, that dream became a reality and Wild Ones Threads was born. “We’d always talked about wanting to build something inspirational together,” says Nicole, a seasoned creative director and graphic designer. “When COVID hit, we had more time together as a family an...

What every mom needs to hear (and it’s not ‘enjoy every moment’)

Every time I leave the house at the moment I know it’s coming. The moment I inevitably lock eyes with someone (a random, usually well-meaning woman) who will utter the following in some form; “Enjoy them while they’re little, it goes so fast!” And every time it happens a little part of me dies because I just don’t have the heart to turn around and tell her that of course, I enjoy my little babies. They are my life. My heartbeat. My reason. My never-ending, all-encompassing love story… AND. I’m tired. My kitchen’s a pit. My house is never tidy. My body is still healing. I’m questioning myself daily if I’m doing a good job. It took me so long to get out of the house. I’m tired. I’m emotionally tested all day by a thriving, spirited four-year-old. My baby still wakes twice in the night....