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Ditch the Resolutions: Why I’m writing a letter to my past (or future) self

New Resolutions

What hard-earned lessons have you learned and would impart to your younger self? 

What do you want your future self to know about where you are right now, at this very moment?

The New Year always brings with it new goals and resolutions for living our best lives. But what if we already are? Even if we’re in a difficult place right now, what if we can reflect upon all the highs and lows and see if they can bring the power of perspective?

Melissa Dalton-Bradford is an expat living in Germany who teaches German to Ukrainian refugees.  In a recent Instagram post, she shared how she asked her students to write letters to their former selves, the people they remember being before February 24th before President Putin invaded their homeland and their lives changed forever. 

She assigned that letter so that they could refine the future tense in German as she learned their new language. She expected:

“You’ll go to a foreign country.”
“You’ll leave family.”
“You’ll miss your home.”
“You’ll miss your job.”
“You’ll live with strangers.”
“You’ll have to learn German.”
“You’ll be angry and frustrated and depressed a lot of the time…”

BUT, she continued, “What they wrote and shared with the class revealed a depth of character and breadth of vision that moved me so much, I could not speak for a moment and had to suck back my tears:”

“You will witness how good always, always conquers evil.”
“You will grow in knowledge.”
“You will gain valuable experience.”
“You will know true wisdom.”
“You will make new friendships and grow new capacities.”
“You will become stronger.”
“You will appreciate your big family. Their courage will give you strength.”

And the clincher:

“You will see your fellow citizens suffer. That will be the hardest thing.”

I’m sure none of them would have chosen this journey; this is the case for many of us. But what if our lows aren’t really failings…they are just part of our growth?

So, this New Year, instead of just resolving, reflect and write a letter to your former (or future) self. 

She has been your oldest and dearest friend. It’s time you started remembering. 

Amber Johnson
Author: Amber Johnson

Amber is the founder and editor of Mile High Mamas, travel writer and former columnist for The Denver Post. She is a passionate community builder and loves the outdoors. She has two awesome teens and is happily married to a man obsessed with growing The Great Pumpkin.

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Amber is the founder and editor of Mile High Mamas, travel writer and former columnist for The Denver Post. She is a passionate community builder and loves the outdoors. She has two awesome teens and is happily married to a man obsessed with growing The Great Pumpkin.

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