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Playdates: Mom dating at its finest

Playdates: Mom dating at its finest

Dating always totally sucked. You have to find someone who shares mutual interests and beliefs with you. Someone who you are comfortable with, and just generally enjoys the presence of this other human being.  I thought this whole “seeking someone” thing was over when I got married to the man my dreams. Well, it turns out finding play dates is a lot like dating and it’s hard to find them. There needs to be a Mom Tinder.

There is so much thought that goes into this whole play date process when you’ve never met this person before. You wonder what the mom will be like and how you will interact with her?  What if they don’t vaccinate?  What about the kid: What if the baby is a total jerk? What if my kid is a total jerk? Do I smell weird? What if I get forehead sweat?! What if I have to poop?

Yeah, all of that ran through my head well I was driving the 2.6 miles to my very first almost blind playdate. Luckily I had been talking to this mom since September of 2014. The crazy thing is we belong to the same birth board on BabyCenter and we often commented on mutual posts. A few months ago there was a post about finding a mom friend. Basically people were sharing the cities they lived in to try and make connections with local people. I know, not the safest idea but what the hell. We were both in the same city! We messaged one another for a few days and then moved our conversation over to Instagram. We had discussed getting together but between holidays, sicknesses, and just downright busy lives we kept putting it off. This week we FINALLY scheduled a time to get no only our kids together, but us too. I read her blog, so I already knew we had mutual interests, but they still didn’t change the fact that I was nervous.

 I told my husband B and he so kindly pointed out the fact that this lady could totally be a serial killer. I rolled my eyes and said she, “She seems totally normal.”

His response then was “I bet that lady who stabbed the pregnant woman from Craigslist seemed normal too.” REALLY?! That totally made my anxiety better… NOT. 

But regardless of my nervous diarrhea and anxiety, I got into my car, and headed over there. My hands were clammy as I turned my steering wheel into her driveway. “I can do this.” I muttered to myself. I got Tater out of the car and saw her standing in the doorway. I was as nervous as a 15-year-old boy picking up his first homecoming date.

Then it happened. I came inside and there was no chainsaw or weird torture device. There was not a crazy mural of Nicolas Cage on the walls. In fact, the house was beautiful and smelled like Christmas. We brought the babies into the living room and hit it off. We talked, laughed, and I generally enjoyed her company. I did it! I survived my first blind playdate!   I never knew going on a playdate would work someone up so much. Who knew that “Mom Dating” was totally a thing?

 With my first “blind play date” out of the way I totally feel more confident with doing all this again. 

Minus the nervous diarrhea.

Sammie is a first-time mom, full of snark and coffee. Her blog includes ways to save, recipes, crafts, and sometime the occasional rant. Visit her blog at www.raisingtater.com.

Mile High Mamas
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  1. Too funny. I think we’ve all been there. It takes a while to find your tribe but the nice thing is when you find it, they’re an amazing support system.

  2. True story. Once upon a time, I found a mom’s group online that was part of a nationwide organization that met near my house at a local church. I can general connect with any kind of mom and am happy to do it but my gosh, I’ve never been in such a weird situation in my life. One mom was talking to me about how she married her dad’s best friend 25 years her senior, and another was telling me all kinds of uncomfortable facts about herself. I was embarrassed to leave early so sneaked my baby and me out the back door. 🙂

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