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Confessions of a 49-year-old Roller Derby Mom

Bat-ass, Pippi Skullknockings, Ho J Simpson, Assaultin’ Pepa, Queen Elizabitch.  These are the kinds of words I throw around my house on a regular basis.  My kids sometimes repeat these names to their friends, teachers and adults they know. 

“Where’s Bat-ass? What happened to Queen Elizabitch? Did she break her ankle? Who’s coming over? Ho J?” And that’s just a few of the monikers of the 100 or so roller derby skaters that have surrounded my kids since they were toddlers. 

My name is Meghan Dougherty, but I’m known as Undertaker’s Daughter, # DOA, with Rocky Mountain Rollergirls in the roller derby community.

Speed bump was the name my daughter was given when she ran onto the track to be nearly skated over when she was 2. Now 10, and my son 12, my kids have grown up around a roller derby culture. That means as a mom you have to accept that your kids will not only repeat the names of skaters as part of roller derby life, but more.  More cussing, a lot of sweat stank, booty shorts and jog bras.  They’ve seen bones get broken, noses get bloodied, and heads get concussed.

But they’ve gotten so much more. 

For my daughter, she sees strong, fierce, and fearless women skating fast, hitting hard and acting confident and independent. That’s women of all sizes and all ages, from 18 to 49, who want to be strong, not skinny.  These strong women, from 4 feet to 6 feet tall, spend up to 15 hours or more a week skating, planking, squatting, sit-upping, smashing, and supporting each other.

They’ve found a healthy way to get their aggressions out, while getting to roller skate and compete in one of the few full contact sports available for women.  

My daughter gets to see that her Mom, who is more than 30 years older than the youngest skaters, as competitive, hard-hitting and hard-working.  And for my 10-year old son, he gets to experience the same thing and sees his Dad coming to every bout at the Fillmore Auditorium, cheering on his Mom, as she knocks down skaters, and eats the floor…on occasion.  

It’s not easy being a mom who plays roller derby.  I’m not always there at every event.  I skate two to four days a week for two to three hours at a stretch.  When I can. Not all moms might think that’s so great. But, it’s harder being a mom than playing roller derby sometimes. I think it’s better to teach balance to your kids.  That it’s okay to be a Mom or Dad, but also be you have a separate identity.

rollerderby1Bottom line, I know that if my daughter decides to play roller derby, she won’t be thinking that she should be skinnier. She’ll be a teammate, a supporter, getting strong, skating faster. 

That’s roller derby.

Meghan Dougherty is a mom, roller derby skater and marketing communications executive in Denver.  She is also the co-author of a book series for tweens called “Dorothy’s Derby Chronicles,” with co-author/illustrator Alece Birnbach.  They will be hosting a book signing for their second book “Woe of Jade Doe” at Boulder Book Store, Thursday, October 1, at 6:30 pm and at the Tattered Cover on Colfax Ave. on Saturday, October 3, at 2 pm.

Comparison is the thief of joy: my back-to-school triggers

Comparison is the thief of Joy, -Theodore Roosevelt

One of my favorite quotes has come into play for me big time. Here we go…

Back-to-school season is in full swing. I don’t know about you but towards the end of the summer I was counting down the days for school to start and now that we’re all settled in it’s so nice to have somewhat of a routine again. I can feel fall in the air and I love this time of year.

My boys started at a new school this year, one they’ll hopefully be at for the next 6 years until Middle School. So with any new school comes new territory, new community, new routines, new friends for the boys and hopefully for us too! My husband and I have always looked forward to this aspect of the boys finally being in school!

However I noticed something kind of creep up for me these first two weeks during drop-off and pick-up. I was starting to feel uncomfortable during these times and even finding myself not looking forward to them at all.

What was wrong with me?

I caught myself observing all the other moms dropping their kids off…and comparing myself to them.

Look how cute she is…

Look how thin she is…

Oh look at her, she must work out seven days a week…

Wow, she’s got it ALL together…

And, as triggers usually do, I started to feel bad about myself.

motherhoodI could be cuter…

I should be thinner…

Maybe I should work out more…

Maybe if I had my act together more I could do/be such and such…

and so on and so on…

And it started to eat away at me.

As I was discussing this with my own coach, she pointed out that this vulnerability in what I was sharing with her was beautiful.


How could something I’m certainly not proud of feeling be beautiful?

Because it makes me real.

It reminds me that I am just like you, and you are just like me.

When triggers come up for us,  (And they will! Even if it’s stuff you’ve worked really hard on! That’s why they’re called triggers! ) whether it’s comparing yourself to other moms (or dads) on the playground or wherever it shows up in your life, you can choose to let them eat away at you, or you can choose to treat them as sort of a divine assignment.

What does that mean?

You say, OK Life (God/Universe/Spirit, etc.)… this is coming up for me, what can I learn from it and how can I use it to evolve and grow as opposed to sink into self-deprecation and unhappiness?

So what did I do?

A few things:

  • I acknowledged that this is 100% my EGO in control here, not my true self, and I forgave myself for having these thoughts as well as for judging them!
  • I spent a few minutes loving on myself, reminding myself of several great and admirable aspects about ME.  (Often a challenge, but we ALL can and should be doing it every damn day! )
  • I sent loving thoughts to these women! These fellow Mamas! Heaven only knows what they are thinking, feeling or going through as well! If I can think of them with LOVE (even if I’ve never spoken to them), then my heart immediately softens, the whole situation seems waaaay less serious and I realize, hey we’re all in this together, just doing our best to get through drop-off, motherhood, LIFE!

Comparison truly is the thief of Joy. It’s human nature indeed, but it does NOT have to rule the show for you.

So let me hear from you…

What are your triggers?

Do you see comparison ‘stealing your joy’ in any areas of your life?

Do this help soften your heart towards yourself and others a little bit? I sure hope so.

Because you are in fact beautiful and perfect and exactly where you need to be in your life right this very minute.

Katie is a Nurse Practitioner, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, Mind/Body Health Coach and blogger at Green Plate Kate. A Denver native and mom of twin boys she is passionate about helping women attain what she considers the trifecta: feeling Spiritual, Sexy and Sane in order to life their BEST life possible! Find her on Facebook:

God, Gratitude and Gangsta Rap

You would never guess by looking at me, but I can spew N.W.A. lyrics like I grew up on the streets of Compton. Clearly, I didn’t; I’m a suburban white mom but I grew up listening to gangsta rap, one of the (many) ways I impressed my now husband, who IS an actual gangster (not really, but he’s bad a$$, and I’m not embellishing just because he’s my husband).

I moved from Morrison, Colorado to Hobe Sound, Florida following the incredibly unexpected loss of my father when I was 11. I went from a predominantly white elementary school (and when I say predominantly, I mean probably 99.99%) to a predominantly black middle school (and when I say predominantly, I mean probably 95.99%).

So began my education in gansta rap; suburban white girl listening to New Kids on the Block one day, to “watchin’ Yo! MTV Raps! What’s the haps on the craps?” (still white girl) the next day, but whatevs. Children are highly adaptable, and I was no exception. Culture shocked, yes, incredibly. But as my mom would always say, you need to pull yourself up by the bootstraps. And so, I did.

When I wasn’t listening to hard-core gangsta rap with my older brother, I was reading. I would devour books to escape the harsh reality that all children who lose parents at a young age must face: life is finite. It’s so cliche, but I literally experienced growing up overnight. Books offered an escape, where, for a time, I could forget about the gut-wrenching grief I tried desperately not to feel. The all-encompassing sadness of the very definition of a daddy’s girl losing her daddy was just too much for me, and so began my life-long love affair with books, the only thing that soothed my soul and attempted to mend my broken heart.

Fast forward 25 or so years to my discovery of the greatest book ever written in the history of books, the Bible. My 2013 New Year’s Resolution was to read the Bible from cover to cover. It took me 362 days, but I did it (I DID IT!!!). 

I know what you’re thinking, what does gansta rap have to do with reading the Bible? My answer would be nothing and everything at the same time. I saw a t-shirt recently that said, “I love Jesus but I cuss a little.” I need this shirt in my life. I DO love Jesus. I also love gangsta rap. I also cuss a little. Ok, A LOT. B

But I love life with ferociousness. I have walked through extreme darkness, which has blessed me with the capacity to feel sincere gratitude for life and all it has to offer, good and bad. My love of reading, my love of lyrics, and my love for Jesus have helped me realize I’ve always wanted to be a writer.

In the words of Biggie, “Damn right I like the life I live ‘cuz I went from negative to positive and it’s all good.”

And it is.


Guest blogger Jarah Montoya co-owns Factory X MMA gym with her husband, Marc Montoya, located in Englewood, CO. Jarah is a Colorado native and a graduate of Colorado State University where she received a B.S. (dual meaning) degree in Business Marketing. She is the mother of 2 children (7 and 11) and and French Bulldog. Jarah loves spending time with her family, running, reading, writing, CrossFit, MMA (watching it, not participating in it), gansta rap and Jesus.



Related: Gladys “I love Jesus but I drink a little” Hardy and Jarah have a lot in common.

Denver Deal: Pan Movie, Free Days, Coffee Day and More

I recently had the opportunity to see the show LookingGlass Alice at the Denver Center (Stage Theater). The show is a family-friendly fun mix of the story we know as Alice in Wonderland – turned on her head. Imagination. Light. Acrobatic. Fun. The show only plays through October 11 – so hurry up to get your tickets!

McDonalds.  McDonald’s introduced a new app for customers that delivers advanced capabilities from the convenience of your smartphone. By downloading the new app and registering, receive a national offer for a FREE large sandwich from McDonald’s, while also taking advantage of offers throughout the state of Colorado that are now offered locally beginning September 21st. Available only for the first 8 million downloads.  When you download the app must also must register to receive national offers. 

Free Days. Saturday, October 3 the Denver Art Museum offers free admission to Colorado residents.

Broncos Specials. I like to cheer the Broncos on because I like to see my team win – but when they do there are some great deals you can take advantage of!

  • Elitch Gardens Theme Park – purchase a general admission ticket for just $18, on the day following every Broncos win through October 18.
  • Arby’s – get a regular roast beef sandwich for just $1 when the Broncos score 3 TDs
  • Conoco – grab a free coffee the morning after a Broncos win. 
  • King Soopers – Free donut (or two-liter bottle of Orange Crush for just $1)
  • McDonalds – Get a Sausage Egg McMuffin or Big Mac for just $1 with key tag and win. 

Kids Consignment Sale Season. It that time of year again! Mile High Mamas has published our guide to Children’s Consignment Sales this fall where you’ll get bargains on kids’ clothing for newborn-preteen, toys, strollers, furniture, baby equipment, books, shoes, maternity items and more. Sales this week: 

  • October 1-4Just Between Friends of Denver Thursday 10 a.m.-7 p.m.,  Friday 10 a.m.-5 p.m.; Saturday: 9 a.m.-2 p.m. (25% off sale); Sunday 9  a.m.-3 p.m. (half-price sale). $4 admission Thursday, $2 admission Friday,  free weekend admission. Plus, Parking is FREE for all shoppers. Takes place at the National Western Complex in Denver.
  • October 3, 2015  Golden Kids Clothing Swap will be from from 9AM-12PM! The community-wide event happens twice a year in Golden. This is a great outreach to the community around us as we donate left-over kids clothes and books. Bring your gently used kids clothing, fall costumes, children’s books, maternity clothes, and other baby items on Friday, October 2 from 5:00-8:00PM (or the day of the swap). See the Golden page on our website for more details and to subscribe to the mailing list for reminders on upcoming swaps:

Avid4Adventure. Ever wanted to score a great deal like 50% off bikes or a paddleboard (or both)? Go to the Avid 4 Adventure Gear sale! This Saturday, October 3 at St. John’s Church and School from 8 a.m. to 11 a.m. Plus, even if you can’t make the sale in person – you can shop online!

National Coffee Day: Celebrate National Coffee Day on Tuesday, September 29 with free coffee from the following: Dunkin’ Donuts (medium coffee), Krispy Kreme (small coffee and free donut), Lamar’s (small coffee), Panera (free brewed coffee with purchase) and Peet’s (free small cup with purchase of a baked or fresh food). 

soybu1Soybu. Our favorite Colorado-based women’s activewear company Soybu is offering an exclusive 25% discount off all order through Oct. 31. Check-out their darling fall fashions, including their Starmaze collection. Simply enter in the code MileHigh25 at checkout. 

Worldwide Festival. The festival will celebrate the art, music, food, dance, fashion, stories, and cultures of Denver’s twelve global Sister and Friendship Cities during this day-long extravaganza. The family-friendly Festival will kick off at 10:30 a.m. with Japanese taiko drums and will feature interactive games, crafts, language, stories, and cooking stations. Attendees can learn how to make Japanese origami, get Indian henna tattoos, learn to cook French crepes, listen to Italian opera, hear Ethiopian fables, learn to count in Swahili, and more! KBNO will be broadcasting live from the Main Stage. Admission is free – all are welcome. The event takes place at the DCPA Galleria. 
Pan Movie. Every legend has a beginning. You and your family are invited to the special advance screening of PAN on October 3rd. Visit and enter the RSVP code ‘BelovedClassic’ to download your admit-four pass.  Please note that seating is not guaranteed; please arrive early for a chance to get in!  #PanMovie opens in theaters October 9th! As with any of the movie premiers the seating is not guaranteed and they do strongly suggest you arrive no later than a half-hour prior to show time (if not more).  

Email me if you know of any great Denver deals!

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If you’re on Twitter follow me on Twitter (GeeWhy93).  If I find a great deal during the week, I’ll tweet it out.

Kids Eat Free Mile High Mamas has rounded up a huge listing of local restaurants where kids eat free or for a discount with a paying adult.


Permanent Sterilization for Birth Control: Exploring Your Options

Is your family complete and you are considering a permanent form of contraception? Depending on each patient’s preferences and individual case, one of two options for permanent sterilization is available: the Essure® Tubal Occlusion or laparoscopic tubal ligation surgery.

As I tell my patients at at Women’s Care of Colorado, both forms are viable means to achieving the same result.

Essure® Tubal Occlusion


Essure Tubal Occlusion

Over the last 10 years, Essure Tubal Occlusion has grown in popularity thanks to its ease of performance through minimally invasive surgery outside the operating room. Women who choose Essure as an option for permanent sterilization are not anesthetized, only require a few medications for pain management during the procedure and are out of the office in about an hour.

With the assistance of a hysterscope, small coils are inserted into the fallopian tubes through the vagina. Once inserted, the body develops scar tissue over the coils, effectively blocking sperm from reaching the egg.

After three months, the patient will have an HSG, an x-ray dye test to determine if the scarring has completely blocked the fallopian tubes. Because the scarring takes time, addition birth control is still needed during these three months.

Many women prefer the Essure procedure over a laparoscopic tubal ligation because it can be performed in the office without general anesthesia and with no abdominal incisions. Some women complain of cramping (the medicine is designed to alleviate this), but are able to resume normal activity the following day.

After the procedure, placing anything in the vagina and sexual intercourse are strongly advised against for two weeks. 

Laparoscopic Tubal Ligation/ Removal

Performed by an OB/GYN physician in the operating room, a laparoscopic tubal ligation is an out patient surgery administered under general anesthesia. The surgery itself takes less than an hour, with two to three small incisions (about 1cm) made on the abdomen.

During the procedure, the physician will either completely remove the fallopian tubes or use what is called a Filshie® Clip to obstruct the tubes, preventing eggs from traveling from the ovaries to the uterus.

As is the case with any surgical intervention, a laparoscopic tubal ligation carries with it increased risk of complications and a more painful recovery time than the Essure procedure. After surgery, we advise limited activity for one-two week and no sexual intercourse for at least two weeks.

Even though surgery is slightly more risky than the Essure procedure, the fallopian tubes are completely blocked upon completion, and additional birth control is unnecessary as it is after the Essure Tubal Occlusion.

Choosing the Right Option

Both procedures have their own benefits, and choosing the right option for you and your family is your decision alone. As partners in your OB/GYN care, we are here to help you navigate through your options and decide on the right fit for your family.

womenscarecoloradoPermanent sterilization is a complex subject not only for mothers, but the entire family. I always advise thoughtful consideration when families come to my practice to start the conversation about sterilization as a permanent birth control solution.

While many sterilization options can be reversed, these two are permanent, and should not be pursued if you have any doubt about whether or not you will want another little one joining the family. No matter your decision, we are dedicated to helping you make the right choices for your family’s future.

leman Dr. Juliet Leman is a Colorado native who returned to the Mile High City after completing her residency in obstetrics and gynecology in Michigan. An OB/GYN physician at Women’s Care of Colorado, her areas of interest include obstetrics, gynecologic surgery and caring for women in all stages of life. Dr. Leman enjoys spending time outdoors with her family and friends and “tries” to enjoy running.

How a lactation consultant saved my daughter’s life

About 10 months ago, my husband and I were getting ready to welcome our new baby to the world. I remember finishing up my last few days at work before my maternity leave. They were filled with struggling to tie my shoes, fatigue, excitement, and enjoying our lives just being the two of us. We never really thought that adding that one little, sweet, adorable, delicious-smelling baby could effect our lives in so many ways. 
As soon as Grayce was born we were all aflutter, with hormones making the lack of sleep not so bad. However, we had no idea that Grayce would suffer from a tongue tie, and all those sleepless hours trying to breastfeed would prove pointless as her little tongue was unable to get her any food.
We watched her in the weeks to follow go from a normal newborn to not waking at night to eat, to barely moving, to us having to undress her and massage her to wake enough to eat. It was horrible. To know that you brought this being into the world so healthy and not know why she was losing weight and wasn’t gaining normally as the doctor would say and to have this feeling in the pit of your stomach saying “Get other help, something is wrong. Should I put her on formula and not breast feed?”
To feel guilty for making a decision for your baby’s health and go against the norm and the advice of doctors was even harder. 
About six weeks after she was born we finally got advice to go to a lactation consultant. She had me nurse her and weigh her. The change was in the 100th of a ounce. She took her and swiped around her mouth to find that she had, what doctors don’t even look for at birth, a tongue tie.
A week later we were in the Children’s Hospital to get it “snipped.” Yes, it was hard to watch her wiggle and strain against the doctor, but when the cut came she didn’t even cry–I did. She was able to eat an entire bottle immediately after the procedure and from then on has been packing it in. 
I can’t help but thank that consultant every day for seeing what every doctor we saw couldn’t and for potentially saving my beautiful daughter’s life. I learned early on to trust my gut, seek help and celebrate the successful endings. Now onto happier things: Months later we are learning to crawl! 
Megan Lemery is a 30-year-old mama to one. She’s learning how to manage a life full of happiness, firsts and full schedules while finding her truest self through the light and love of her life. 

Children’s Advocacy Boot Camp

Have you ever wished you had the knowledge and tools to call up your state representative to discuss a health care issue faced by your family or your child? Have you ever wanted to build support within your community or your child’s school for a specific cause related to children’s health? Have you ever felt the need to speak up in a health care setting but not been sure how you would be received? Children’s Advocacy Boot Camp is for you!
Children’s Hospital Colorado is proud to announce its second Children’s Advocacy Boot Camp—a program for adults who want to learn how to advocate for children’s health issues that matter to them. Consisting of seven monthly half-day sessions featuring expert speakers on a variety of advocacy-related topics, Children’s Advocacy Boot Camp will resemble traditional leadership programs but will be geared toward teaching the fundamentals of becoming an effective advocate—be that at the Capitol, in your community, or in a healthcare setting, and other places.
Develop key skills
After completing Advocacy Boot camp, you will be able to:
• Find your voice, believe you can effect change, and know how to improve your community for children
• Be able to identify community resources and supports for children and understand how to utilize them
• Build confidence in communicating with elected officials and other community leaders on behalf of children
• Develop public speaking skills and strategies
• Learn the importance of the media and how to leverage it to make positive societal improvements for children
• Gain an understanding of the legislative process and state budgeting
• Be able to navigate the State Capitol
There is no charge to participate in the program; however, interested individuals must apply. Class size is limited. Questions? Contact Kay Jenner at: [email protected]

Sunday’s rare supermoon lunar eclipse: when it can be seen in Colorado

I’ll admit I’ve become a bit jaded to all the hyperboles surrounding many sky-watching events. “Once in a lifetime!” This phenonemenon won’t happen for another 30 years!” 

But the one on Sunday really is truly notable— it’s the first total eclipse that’s also a supermoon and a blood moon in more than three decades.

As explains: “Supermoons occur when the moon reaches its full phase at or near the satellite’s closest approach to Earth, and appears abnormally large and bright as a result. The Sept. 27 event is quite special; the last supermoon eclipse occurred in 1982, and the next won’t take place until 2033.”

To get the exact time of the eclipse for your location, the U.S. Naval Observatory’s page has a handy calculator where you enter in your city and it gives you details on when the moon will enter umbra, the middle of the eclipse, and when it leaves totality.


13 Delicious Spiced Pumpkin Recipes for Fall

1. Two-Ingredient Pumpkin Cake with Apple Cider Glaze

If you are an elitist foodie, I don’t know what to tell you other than to check your ‘tude at the door.  We’re going simpleton today…but nothing less than excellent.


2. Pumpkin Cheesecake Snickerdoodles

Yawn . Pumpkin snickerdoodles are soooo passe but pumpkin snickerdoodles stuffed with cream cheese? Now we’re talking.


3. Crock Pot Pumpkin Butter

Make this for yourself or to give away to your friends. This recipe even includes printable labels for your jars.


4. Pumpkin Waffles with Spiced Pear Marmalade

I stumbled upon a pretty darn awesome pumpkin waffle recipe, tweaked it with even more spices and made it for some guests. They loved it and my family loves it. So much, in fact, that my kiddos beg to make “friend waffles” whenever we have guests. I’m always more than happy to oblige.


5. Homemade Pumpkin Spice Creamer

Is pumpkin spice creamer a fall ritual? Make this homemade creamer and add it to your hot chocolate or coffee.


6. Pumpkin Cinnamon Rolls

They’re soft, light, fluffy and there’s just enough pumpkin flavor to notice, but not so much that it overwhelms the inherent beauty of classic cinnamon rolls. Topped with cream cheese glaze, they’re totally irresistible.


7. Pumpkin French Toast Bake

The ‘batter’ consists of several free range eggs, a healthy dash of milk, a scoop of pumpkin butter and plenty of pumpkin pie spice. Topped with brown sugar and it was good to go.


8. Pumpkin Sheet Cake

Is this really the best pumpkin sheet cake with cream cheese frosting recipe ever? You’ll have to try it to find out.


9. Pumpkin Pie Protein Shake

Turn your protein shake into a delicious pumpkin treat! Healthy, satisfying, and super tasty!


10. Pumpkin Pie Crescents

If you’re looking for a delicious and easy way to enjoy pumpkin pie, this is it! This recipe is so easy, the kids can make it, too.


11. Perfectly Pumpkin Magic Cookie Bars

If you’ve never had a 7-layer magic cookie bar you’re missing out. Anything with sweetened condensed milk is a winner in my book but then add coconut, chocolate and graham crackers? Pumpkin makes this treat that much better.


12. White Chocolate Pumpkin Truffles

Pumpkin cream cheese truffle with white chocolate. ‘Nuff said.


13. Pumpkin Caramel Sauce

Easy Homemade Pumpkin Caramel Sauce Recipe – caramel infused with pumpkin puree for fall!




Mom’s sweet “Hallelujah” to baby goes viral on Facebook

Who can’t relate to this sweet rendition of Leonard Cohen’s “Hallelujah?”

 In a performance that is both incredibly beautiful as well as incredibly funny, Shannon Abbott shares her talents and her insights into the day-to-day life of motherhood. The song exploded on Facebook, receiving over 2.5 million views in a week.

“Oh my GOODNESS!!! 2 MILLION VIEWS!!! Unbelievable!” responded the thrilled mom. “I am humbled that this silly little song that I wrote for a silly little talent show in teeny tiny Payson Utah, could bring so much joy to people around the WORLD! It just goes to show that no matter where you are from, or what your background is, we all feel the power of music and the love we have for our sweet children. How blessed we are!” ‪#‎Sharegoodness‬