25 questions to ask your kids after school
posted by: Amber Johnson
It never fails. After a long day at school when I ask my kids “How was your day?” They always answer “fine.” End of conversation.
So, I’ve stopped asking “yes” and “no” questions and instead ask them to expound upon open-ended queries. In the very least, I get a complete sentence as a response and at best, I get some pretty colorful answers that give a glimpse at how my kids’ day at school really went–the good and the bad!
1. What was the best part of your day?
2. What games did you place at recess and with whom?
3. Who did you sit with on the bus?
4. What did you or your teacher read in class?
5. Tell me something that made you laugh.
6. What was something that was hard or boring?
7. Who would you like to sit by in class and who would you not like to be beside and why?
8. Tell me something new you learned today?
9. Who is someone funny in your class and why are they funny?
10. How did you help someone or did someone help you?
11. Is there anyone in the class who needs a timeout?
12. Can you think of anything you did today that would make your teacher proud to have you in their class, or that would have made us proud of you?
13. What was your favorite time of day today?
14. What’s the biggest difference between last year’s teacher and this year’s teacher?
15. There are some new kids in your class. What are their names and what are they like?
16. What subject do you feel you are doing the best in, and which subject are you struggling in the most?
17. Do you have any homework? What can I help you with?
18. We used to have a mean boy in my class when I was your age. I still remember what a bully he was. Do you have anyone like that in your class?
19. What are you doing in class tomorrow?
20. Who in your class do you think you could be nicer to and needs to be included?
If you suspect your child is struggling to fit in or is experiencing bullying, focus on questions that deal with less structured times like lunch and recess. Most importantly, be intentional and engaged when they arrive home. Smile, make eye contact and show you really do care about the details of their day.
What are some questions you’d add to this list?