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In the Still of the Night: Motherhood’s Powerful Secret Society


Shrouded in darkness, I go about my business. I speak in hushed tones and whispers as I perform the sacred rituals. I belong to the most powerful secret society in the universe:


As I snuggle this tiny person against my chest and sway back and forth in our special chair, I think about this vast sisterhood that I belong to. All across this darkened portion of the planet, thousands and thousands of mothers are doing exactly what I’m doing: wiping tears, calming fears, tending to the sick and the helpless. There are no cameras, no award ceremonies, no worldly glory for our labors. We are never thanked and rarely acknowledged. We work a 24-hour shift every day.

In the glaring light of day, I look frazzled. I’m overworked and overweight. There are lunches to be packed, laundry to be washed, groceries to be bought. It’s a whirlwind of activity, noise, and chaos. The world may forget us. They may even snicker at us. They will laugh at the black circles under our eyes-–the circles we earned through love. They will wonder how we can stand to be “just a mom.” We may even allow them make us feel inconsequential.

But in those sacred hours of the night, while “important” people are sleeping, my little baby and I share powerful moments full of love, peace, and serenity—things that society doesn’t give him but that perhaps one day he’ll give to society. As I rock him, I tell him who he is, I tell him who he can become, I tell him who loves him.

These are the moments that will change the world.

Guest blogger Brillig speaks four languages, has lived on four continents, and had four children in four and a half years. 

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  1. This is so beautifully written. You penned it perfectly–thank you!!!

    • Thank you so, so much for sharing this link Amber.
      So beautifully written – gave me goosebumps. I know how lucky I am to be part of the most powerful secret society.
      I proudly am displaying my dark circles under my eyes today :0)

  2. This gave me goosebumps. I’m so tired of hearing what I’m doing as a mother isn’t as important as if I’d stayed in the workforce. We are building souls. What could be more important than that?

  3. I love this! Very well said. As moms we all have these tender, impactful moments in the middle of the night. Even as a working mom I can be left to feel inconsequential. We just can’t win, can we? I love when you said, “things that society doesn’t give him but that perhaps one day he’ll give to society.” That gave me chills and makes the sleepless nights and long days all very worth it. Beautifully written!

  4. I remember sitting outside with Austin when he was first born trying to make sure he didn’t wake up the rest of the house and how quiet and peaceful it was. I probably sat out there for 2 hours looking at the stars while he slept in my arms. I love my little man more than anything!

  5. If you think that being a moms is less important than other jobs, this post is for you! It is amazing!!

  6. One of my favorite posts by one of my favorite people. Heart!

  7. So well put! Made me cry. I have a 3 week old. This is exactly how I feel!

  8. Love this. Perfect and powerful and so very true.

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