Young vs. Old Mom: Which One Are You?
posted by: Mile High Mamas
We women are basically fertile from age 15-45, and there are even some outliers beyond these ages.
We have seen pregnancies in girls younger than 15, but that’s a whole other topic.
And with the magic of infertility treatments, we also see women older than 45 having babies. In fact, with the magic of accidents, we do see spontaneous pregnancies in women older than 45. That’s just one of those crazy life things where if you wanted to get pregnant after 45, it would be quite difficult. But sure enough, if you are sending your older kids off to college, eagerly awaiting some well-deserved alone time with your spouse (what was his name again?), then KABOOM, you are in the second-highest group of unintended pregnancies after teenagers: perimenopausal women. You’ve just had your last period: baby, then menopause, or as one of my dear friends refers to it: breast-o-pause, because you breast feed the baby, then: nothing. No period, nothing. It’s done.
I had a patient who had a couple babies later in life (after age 45) but she had to quit breast feeding sooner than she wanted. The reason? She couldn’t see her nipple. That’s right, her eyesight had deteriorated to the point where she was having trouble connecting baby to breast. Awesome. But, the flip side is, she is old enough, and has had enough kids, to just roll with it. Sure, breast feeding is best, but it’s nothing to lose your sanity over.
Older moms can be chill like that. They know things have a way of working themselves out, somehow, someway. And they have more money.
Younger moms, however, they’ve got all the energy. They take their kids out and run around with them, play games, jump on the trampoline. Older moms don’t jump on trampolines. If you don’t know why no trampolines, you’re not “older.”
Younger moms care about which diaper genie to buy, they care if their kid brushes their hair in the morning, they care if their kid eats food off of the floor.
Older moms mostly care that they don’t get called “Grandma.”
Let’s face it, babies are a blessing and a joy at any time in life, and they come with different challenges at different phases. Either way, the best thing any of us can do it just fasten our seat belts and try to enjoy the ride.
Guest blogger Joyce Gottesfeld, MD has been an Obstetrician/Gynecologist with Kaiser Permanente Colorado for the past 17 years. She’s a mother of three young daughters, ages 15, 12 and 8 and married to Marshall Gottesfeld, also an OBGYN in Denver. Joyce loves caring for women and started this blog as a way to share thoughts on women’s health, being a parent, a wife, staying fit and other life topics. To read more of her blog check out