Mom Exhaustion: Is this the new normal?
posted by: Kendra Scott
I’m pretty sure I already know the answer to that question and it, unfortunately, is yes.
The exhaustion. It is slowly killing me.
I remember how I felt as a first-time mom with a newborn and wondered how I had the audacity to complain about being tired before having kids. Then I remember how I felt as I returned back to work as a first-time mom and wondered how I had the nerve to complain about being tired with a newborn when I could relax, rest, or even sleep during the day on maternity leave.
Then more recently came the sleeplessness of a newborn paired with an early rising toddler and I was catapulted into a whole new inner circle of hell. And finally, the coup de gras of all of this is a baby, a toddler and a full-time job.
Now here’s the kicker. Here’s the thing that’s going to make you want to tell me to snap the heck out of it and take my complaining, tired a$$ elsewhere.
My baby sleeps through the night and has for some time.
Yep. I sleep on average a total of 7 hours each night, 8 hours if I’m really lucky and I’m STILL exhausted! Like painfully, can’t see straight, fall asleep standing up, shouldn’t be driving, kind of exhausted. And I don’t know why!
Okay, so I have an idea why. It could be that from the second I wake up to the second I fall asleep I am on-the-go. I am like the freaking Energizer Bunny zipping from mommy, to professional, to wife, to mommy, to professional to wife. But instead of super cool dark sunglasses and a sweet drum I don super cool dark circles and a breast pump.
To be honest with you, I’m not handling this very well. From the outside I appear to be a rock star pulling myself together each day and thanks to make-up and a suit I look somewhat decent. But internally I am a nightmare. This deathly tired feeling is consuming my already mushy brain and I can’t shake it.
I need sleep. I need a week of sleep to catch up and truly feel rested. But alas that will never happen. I know right now there are parents in the newborn stage that are getting half the amount of sleep I do. I know there are people who suffer from insomnia that want to round-house kick me in the head for complaining. I know it is all relative.
I also know that this is what I signed up for and I need to chill out. I’m going to be tired for a while. I’ll get blips of time where I can get caught up and there are days where I’m feeling great so I need to be thankful for that. I also need to do a better job of staying positive and not crossing into the dark side. So what if I’m tired?!? I have two wonderful, healthy children, a husband who is the best partner anyone could ask for, and a job that not only pays the bills but that I happen to enjoy. So maybe I am tired all the time but the bottom line is that I can get through it and I should probably stop with all the complaining.
Thank you for listening. I feel better already. Now I’m off to sleep on the floor pump on my lunch break and just keep on keeping on!
How do you handle the exhaustion?
Kendra is a full-time working mom to a precocious toddler and baby girl and wife to her long-time sweetheart. At “My Full-Thyme Life” (http://myfullthymelife.blogspot.com) she writes about how she attempts to balance her cherished roles as wife, mom and key employee.
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