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When kids save the drama for their mama

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There are two types of kids. Kids who behave better for other people than for their parents and kids that are better behaved for their parent than other adults.

My boys are better for other people. At school they are respectful and hard-working. I’ve been know to act incredulous whenever someone compliments me on my well-mannered sons. Pleased, but surprised, nonetheless.

At home, they are loud, messy, and roam around the house like a pack of hyenas. If you hang around my house long enough, you’ll hear me say, “You wanna act like animals? I’ll put you outside like an animal!” My sons have spent many an evening coolin’ their jets on the back porch with the dog.

My daughter, on the other hand, is an angel at home. She is helpful, loving, and prides herself on being able to keep a tidy bedroom. But, at school, she is hyper, talkative, and has no concept of personal space. Today at church, a little girl said to me, “Is that your daughter? I know her. She is crazy.”

I believe, for the most part, that kids are a product of their upbringing and I take full responsibility for my kid’s behavioral shortcomings, but I would rather my missteps in parenting be seen only by me in the privacy of the four walls of our home and not on display for the whole world to judge. I created their drama. They should save it for their mama.

Does your child fall into one of these categories? Is your kid a happy home body and menace to society or a home-wrecker and model citizen?


Mile High Mamas
Author: Mile High Mamas

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  • comment avatar yvonne January 21, 2009

    I have to say I have had both kinds and it has been an experience. Enjoy each and every minute–one day the house will be quiet and I highly doubt any of us will be saying, “Thank goodness for quiet.”

    (I know–spoken like an old lady ; )

  • comment avatar marcia@joyismygoal January 21, 2009

    I had the same experience as you do Annie my boys were better at school than home and my daughter the opposite I think when boys feel unconditional love they feel free to express themselves as they wish and girls want to be like their mamas

  • comment avatar CoconutKate January 21, 2009

    I cannot say what my daughter is! She never stops surprising me, both in good ways and bad. Every time I make a judgement on how she will act or react, I’m proved wrong. I just don’t every know what to expect!

  • comment avatar Mrs. Organic January 21, 2009

    My son is the same way – lovely, helpful and calm outside the house and an impatient tease at home.

    My girls are mostly great anywhere – except when their brother is teasing them and then it sounds like WW III in here.

    I much prefer that they reserve the drama for mama as well.

  • comment avatar Lori January 21, 2009

    DD is a menace to society and a menace at home. At least she’s consistent!

    DS is pretty much a model citizen — consistent, too. So much so that I worry he’s a lilttle TOO accommodating.

    We should put our daughters on a back porch and see what happens :-).

  • comment avatar Momma, The Casual Perfectionist January 21, 2009

    Luckily, my little girl is pretty well-behaved at home and in public, but she’d never DREAM of being sassy to a non-Momma adult. Whereas, she has no problems being sassy with me.

    Oddly enough, she’s rarely sassy with Daddy…she saves almost all the drama for Momma. 🙂


  • comment avatar Klin January 21, 2009

    Oldest is better for me now, but when he was younger it was the other way.

    Monkey Wrench has finally gotten to the point where he is mostly good for others. He just can’t sass me like the teachers. Usually gets him a bop on the head or phone turned off. Muahahahahaha

    Mini Me is great for others. Mostly good for me.

    Tree Monkey is good all around. She holds a strong face in public. Only mamma gets to see her cry.

  • comment avatar No Cool Story January 21, 2009

    I get a lot of compliments about my kids’ behavior: Model citizens, happy, helpful, etc.

    They are for me too, for them most of the time. It’s nice to get a reminder 😉

  • comment avatar MileHighDad January 21, 2009

    What? You talkin to me?? About my kid??? Are you sure????
    “He’s such an angel, yadda, yadda, yadda.”
    These thoughts run through my head when I pick up my 6 YO son from playing at his budz house when I get a dose of the yaddas.
    At home, it is all to often a full court press with him pressing both mom and me to see how far he can go/what he can get. Then we lay down the law and hear… Tune into my Blog for the rest of the story… Dang, haven’t I heard that before?
    Anyway, I don’t feel like reliving those moments!

  • comment avatar Bonnie January 21, 2009

    I giggled when I read about your kids. I have 2 boys and I call them my monkeys because when they are in the house that’s how I feel. They are always climbing, jumping..etc. I don’t have girls but I hear they are much different. I know what you mean, sometimes I get compliments on my boys and I’m thinking really? They were helpful and well behaved?? haha.

  • comment avatar Jenny January 21, 2009

    Mine are good for other people. I think they get tired of hearing my voice. Because they just don’t respone anymore like they did when they were little.

  • comment avatar Anonymous January 22, 2009

    You know my kids act about the same at home and away. My 14 year old boy is always laid back, easygoing & doesn’t get ruffled. Now the opposite can be said for his 6 year old sister, drama, drama, DRAMA!!!! If I would have had her first I would only have one child…….it’s a good thing she is very loving and affectionate 😉

  • comment avatar shannon January 22, 2009

    Miss thing,
    With your Mini Me, it’s called spunk, all of the best kids drive their teachers nuts. And studys show that most centarians have a few things in common , one trait is loquaciousness. And she probably gets that from her mother!

  • comment avatar Terra January 22, 2009

    Both my children are angels at school and save the drama for mama. I prefer it that way though I could do without the drama.

  • comment avatar pedaling January 25, 2009

    with five girls- i know drama. believe me i know drama! and usually in our household it’s saved for the mama!

  • comment avatar nancy face January 25, 2009

    You just described ME as a child! I was a home-wrecker and a model citizen!

    When my mom went to parent-teacher conferences and my teachers would gush about how wonderful I was, she would say, “Are you talking about MY daughter?”

    Or at least she told me she said that.

  • comment avatar Candace December 29, 2011

    I can sooooo relate to this.

  • comment avatar Lisa - Laughing Yoga Mama January 1, 2012

    I was the angel in public and a whiner (albiet a rule follower) at home. I can vividly recall my mom rolling her eyes countless times when people would tell her how sweet and cooperative I was – LOL!

    My boys have definitely inherited the well-behaved in public gene, that along with a great deal of training and a few time outs at check out stands. They do save most of their drama for me, hence all the ideas I have for my column :), but they really are pretty cooperative boys.

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