Mama Drama: Stay at Home Success
posted by: Lisa Vratny-Smith
Dear Mama Drama:
We have recently adopted a three-year-old twins. I am fortunate to be able to stay home to help them adjust to our family and bond with us.
I love children and am thrilled to finally have two of my own, but I have little experience with keeping them busy for an entire day. I would love some ideas for creating meaningful and fun activities for them.
Congratulations on your growing family! Three-year-olds are busy little people learning, exploring, and discovering the world and themselves. Keeping up with their energy can be exhausting for even the most seasoned parent. It’s important to keep in mind that our job as parents is to guide our children and provide them opportunities to learn and play, but we don’t need to entertain them. At times this can be a delicate balance to negotiate.
A consistent routine is a great place to start with your kids. Predictability paired with flexibility sets the foundation for trust and decreases power struggles. Have a regular routine and give your kids a heads up when changes are coming such as appointments and outing. Using picture schedules will help your kids to understand the routine and increase their independence with it over time.
Have a variety of toys available for play. Play with your children some of them time and allow them to play by themselves or with each other some of the time. Stay nearby to monitor their play skills and provide support in developing their social and problem solving skills. Help them limit the amount of toys they have out at any one time and teach them the steps for cleaning up.
Get out for adventures. Everyone gets a bit of cabin fever when there is too much time in the house. Get out in the yard, go for neighborhood walks, go to the park, and visit the zoo and museums. (Memberships and Free Days are great ways to go on a budget.) Be sure to balance outings with relaxed time at home. Too much scheduled time, and just trying to get out of the house, can be stressful.
To support your children’s socialization and provide a grown up outlet for yourself, join a playgroup or mom’s club. Other moms are a great resource for ideas on activities, outing, and tackling parenting challenges.
Read, read, read together. Reading with your children provides a wonderful foundation for literacy skills and a lovely time to bond with each other. In her book Show Me How! Vivian Kirkfield shares a plethora of ideas for pairing books with cooking and craft activities. She suggests reading the story, making a meal or snack from the story, and creating a craft or art project that related to the tale. Children love re-enacting stories and pretending to be their favorite characters. These ideas provide a guide for creating a theme for your day and supporting your children’s self-esteem along the way. Kirkfield adds a bonus of gentle parenting tips with each book activity. Teach Mama also a has great blog with everyday activities to incorporate pre-academic skills into your family fun.
Remember building strong relationships with your children will come from the time you spend together, no matter what you are doing. Have fun and enjoy this special gift of being with them while they are little.
Tell us your ideas for sharing your days with little ones.
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