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Trying not to be too ready

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Guest Blogger Gwen is expecting…for the second time. And once again, no baby bump or stretch-marks will grace her with their pending bambino. Step inside their world of growing a family through adoption. Follow along here at Mile High Mamas and her blog and get a candid feel for the ups, downs, highs, lows and surprises that go hand in hand with the struggles of infertility and the miracle of adoption.

I went to BABIES R US…Why did I DO that?

We bought baby bedding. I know. Why would we do such a thing? We don’t even have the inkling of a placement at this point in time. I convinced myself that dude needed new sippy cups, so naturally, Babies R Us is the only place that I could go to find said sippy cups. And in lieu of sippy cups, I found baby boy crib bedding. And really cute onesies. And super soft blankets that every baby wants to be swaddled in. And I went home feeling giddy with baby glee and also really bitter at all the pregos walking around, ready to pop out their home grown newborns. It’s commonplace at BRU to look at every woman’s stomach as you pass by. How far along are YOU? They all look at me and assume that my flat stomach is shopping for gifts or that I’m overly gung ho in my very early stage pregnancy. And I have to tell you – I’m SO tempted to park in the “Parking for Expectant Mothers” spots every time. But I would be glared at.

Back to the “we bought bedding” issue. Why? Because this bedding is so beyond our “cute without being cutesy” standards and it was half off and we don’t like 99% of the boys bedding out there and I need something to get me in the baby mode. And so we bought bedding. And we’ll return it in 90 days if there’s still no sign of a bambino. And then my neighbor will come with me so she can re-buy it and we’ll then have another 90 days to hope for a reason to use it. And then if it’s still not happening I’ll return it again. And by that point I’ll be pretty darn depressed about it. What if we get a girl? Well, that’s a whole different issue. I haven’t found girly bedding that’s half off that meets my standards yet.

Welcome to my brain these days. I’m beyond the point of not thinking about our future family on a day to day basis. I think about it. And I daydream about it. And I make up birth moms in my head and analyze what our relationship will be like with her. And I wonder what color skin the little dude or dudette will have and what pitch their cry will be. Don’t worry – I’m not obsessing. It’s just becoming more of a reality than it was before. Why? I don’t know since my fingerprints are still sitting on an FBI agent’s desk somewhere, waiting to be rejected again. Yes, we’re still waiting on that. Our agency won’t put us online nationally until this happens. They say they’ll show our book locally if a birth mom matches us, so we’re banking on that promise at this point.

What’s the point of this random post? We’re ready. I’m ready. And trying my darndest not to be “too ready.” So for now I’ll be working on living my life as is and hope hope hoping for baby news sooner than later. And I’ll hide that super cute bedding in the depths of my guest room closet where I can only get a glimpse of the cuteness from time to time.

Mile High Mamas
Author: Mile High Mamas

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  • comment avatar Amber's Crazy Bloggin' Canuck February 24, 2010

    There must be such a tough balance with this. You want to be adequately prepared but you don’t want to get your hopes up too much!

  • comment avatar Fiona February 24, 2010

    How exciting – I can’t imagine how nervous and excited I would be but I’m all for getting hopes up! Any child would be blessed to end up in your arms – I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed for you!

  • comment avatar Gwen February 24, 2010

    Thanks for the positive feedback ladies. It is a tough balance, but luckily we’re still in the excited mode. God’s will be done…without that I really don’t know how we’d handle it all.

  • comment avatar Rebecca February 24, 2010

    It’s tough when you are someone who likes to plan for things…it’s pretty dang hard to plan ahead with adoption! But all of the waiting and hoping and trying-not-to-plan will be so worth it when you have your sweet baby in your arms!

  • comment avatar Lori February 24, 2010

    I understand the dilemma all too well.

    Hoping the fingerprints get through real soon!

  • comment avatar Shawn February 25, 2010

    Babywearing is a great way to bond with an adopted child. Carrying them close to you helps them feel safe and secure. I really recommend checking out it is a forum site dedicated to parents that are really into the babywearing lifestyle. Also if you have a free moment check out the Ergo Baby Carrier at (Colorado based business) it is a infant through toddler baby carrier.