I am aware of how to make babies–thanks so much for asking!
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When I read Gretchenâs post I Didnât Have My Children to Make the Polar Bears Weep wherein she recounts peopleâs rude comments concerning her many children, it caused me to think of the opposite problem. Namely, rude comments people make to couples with no children.
For example, âSo, when are you two gonna start having kids?â? As though it were as easy as going to the 7-11 and buying a Slurpee.
I think people who have no problem having kids can sometimes be very insensitive to those who have none. The people you so carelessly and casually questioned may have been trying for years to have children, but with no success.
They may have gone through in-vitro several times, only to be horribly disappointed when it didnât work.
Or they may have had several heartbreaking miscarriages. At least half of the women I know have had problems either getting pregnant or staying pregnant, myself included. Asking off-the-cuff questions about peopleâs lack of children can just drive a deeper wedge into hearts that are already splitting with grief.
They are insulting to a man, who now feels that his virility is being questioned, and to a woman, who already probably feels unnecessarily guilty because her body is not functioning as it was designed.
So the next time you feel the need to comment on anybodyâs childrenâeither the abundance of or lack therof â please donât.