How do you cherish every moment?
Are you like me? When people see you have two very young children and say, “be sure to cherish every moment” do you look back at them through your exhausted eyes and scratch your weary head wondering which moments they mean?
Is it the moment when my toddler is screaming because I refuse to let him eat fruit snacks for dinner? Or maybe it’s the moment when the baby won’t let me put her down for, I dunno, a second?
Maybe these people are referring to the moments when I just sat my sweet little 2½ year old on the potty as he proclaims he “doesn’t have to go” only to get his fresh pair of skivvies on his tiny little tookus and send him on his way, then have him reappear literally seconds later with a present in said skivvies?
If they aren’t referring to those fun-filled moments then surely they are referring to the sleepless nights, the exhausting days, the running around, the worrying, the tantrums, the tummy bugs, and the never ending diaper changes.
For the record, I love and adore my kids. I promise. It’s just that I have days and sometimes weeks where I know I’m not living in the moment, I’m literally getting through each moment. I have to believe that when people say, “cherish every moment” it’s because someday I will wish I could have these days and weeks back no matter how crazy they were just to be able to smell the top of my baby’s head or laugh out loud after my toddler says something so incredibly funny.
I know I’m not really savoring this amazing time in my life as much as I should and I want to be better about this. I don’t want to let the daily grind desensitize me from cherishing the time I have with my very young children. Of course every day isn’t going to be magical and note worthy but taking inventory of special moments with each of my kids is something I think I can accomplish.
Making a special date with just my son where I don’t have to be telling him not to do this or that, not making him hurry so mommy can get to work on time, and not asking him every 10 minutes if he has to use the potty. Just a special date where we get to have fun with each other, because those truly are the moments I want to cherish.
I also plan on savoring the baby time I have left with my girl… Rocking her to sleep, making her giggle, and having my heart melted with every gummy grin. Sounds like perfection to me!
It is completely unrealistic for me to cherish EVERY moment but I have to say, I can darn well cherish the moments that matter. That’s what it’s all about after all. That and the hokey pokey… or so I’m told.
Do you do a good job about living in the moment or do you also have to remind yourself to slow down and smell the baby?
Kendra is a full-time working mom to a precocious two-year old boy and eight month old baby girl and wife to her long-time sweetheart. At “My Full-Thyme Life” (http://myfullthymelife.blogspot.com) she writes about how she attempts to balance her cherished roles and all the fun along the way.