Becoming Mothers: What not to Expect when you are Unexpectedly Expecting
posted by: Guest Blogger
The day I found out I was expecting, I was in tears. I wasn’t ready to be a mommy. My husband had just left for Iraq. How was I going to handle pregnancy without him? And how was I going to tell him? Through Instant Message, of course!
Jump ahead 9 months later, it was time to have a baby girl. The delivery seemed to go pretty smoothly. There was nothing too out of the ordinary.
Like many new moms, I was having trouble breastfeeding. Baby C kept losing weight and I was forced to supplement.
Three weeks later, I was admitted back into the hospital and separated from my baby girl. Turns out, I had placenta left inside of me (that explains the breastfeeding issue). After the D&C procedure, I returned back to my hospital room where my symptoms worsened. (I’ll spare you the gory details.) I was diagnosed with an E.Coli Infection.
After being hooked up to machines, attached to I.V.’s, and having a nurse tend to my bathroom emergencies, I remember thinking, “things can’t possibly get any worse.”
Well, I was so wrong! Two days later, my mom and mother-in-law came into my room with tears. That’s when I found out the unexpected. My baby girl was admitted into the hospital with Bacterial Spinal Meningitis from Salmonella. *Insert loud scream here.
Though the doctors warned us that Baby C may lose her hearing and have several developmental delays, there is no doubt in my mind that it was God’s healing hand that completely healed Baby C. Unfortunately, we lost a great amount of bonding time while she spent 28 days in the hospital. So it felt like forever before she knew I was her mommy. I had a very hard time moving past the illness of Baby C and I, so I began blogging as therapy.
Today, Baby C is the happiest and sweetest baby you could ever meet. She has hit every milestone right on time and continues to amaze me every day.
Mandi Eschenbach is a former teacher turned SAHM to Baby C and married to her adventurous husband who takes great care of them. She is the author of Sweet Tiny Blessings, where I blog about faith, family and fun!