Comments on: We Went in for Chocolate and Got Self-Esteem http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/28/we-went-in-for-chocolate-and-got-self-esteem/ Denver parenting, with altitude Thu, 09 Feb 2012 21:29:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Mom http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/28/we-went-in-for-chocolate-and-got-self-esteem/#comment-6534 Mom Fri, 29 May 2009 01:04:25 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=3086#comment-6534 Having raised three beautiful (inside as well as outside) daughters who became strong, confident, well-adjusted women, you would think I would have a clue. Truth is, I think I was lucky. It is difficult for a mother to counteract all those outside sources of input that daughters put so much stock in....TV programs that idolize the perfect body, look, skin; TV commercials that shout that we should be unhappy with who we are and if we only buy, buy, buy, we too can fit in; and most of all the peer groups whose sole purpose seems to be to tear a fragile ego down. As if that makes the peer feel any better about herself. Open and honest communication is important. The secret signal to reinforce confidence seems like a great solution. And if all else fails, pray. It might help! Having raised three beautiful (inside as well as outside) daughters who became strong, confident, well-adjusted women, you would think I would have a clue. Truth is, I think I was lucky. It is difficult for a mother to counteract all those outside sources of input that daughters put so much stock in….TV programs that idolize the perfect body, look, skin; TV commercials that shout that we should be unhappy with who we are and if we only buy, buy, buy, we too can fit in; and most of all the peer groups whose sole purpose seems to be to tear a fragile ego down. As if that makes the peer feel any better about herself.
Open and honest communication is important. The secret signal to reinforce confidence seems like a great solution. And if all else fails, pray. It might help!

]]> By: JoAnn, The Casual Perfectionist http://thecasualperfectionist.com http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/28/we-went-in-for-chocolate-and-got-self-esteem/#comment-6533 JoAnn, The Casual Perfectionist http://thecasualperfectionist.com Thu, 28 May 2009 23:38:12 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=3086#comment-6533 This sounds like a great book, Lori! I think the key to raising children with a healthy self-esteem is to do an inner inventory to make sure our own self-esteem is where it should be. It's kind of like when they say to place your own oxygen mask on first before helping those around you. If you are confident and willing to not only learn but learn from your mistakes, your children will too. Will there still be struggles? Absolutely, but it's much easier to build on a strong foundation. :) This sounds like a great book, Lori! I think the key to raising children with a healthy self-esteem is to do an inner inventory to make sure our own self-esteem is where it should be.

It’s kind of like when they say to place your own oxygen mask on first before helping those around you.

If you are confident and willing to not only learn but learn from your mistakes, your children will too. Will there still be struggles? Absolutely, but it’s much easier to build on a strong foundation. :)

]]> By: Melissa Taylor http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/28/we-went-in-for-chocolate-and-got-self-esteem/#comment-6532 Melissa Taylor Thu, 28 May 2009 23:04:19 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=3086#comment-6532 I"m looking forward to reading this book. Thanks for the recommendation- Melissa Taylor www.imaginationsoup.net www.meltay.wordpress.com I”m looking forward to reading this book. Thanks for the recommendation-

Melissa Taylor

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]]> By: Tami http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/28/we-went-in-for-chocolate-and-got-self-esteem/#comment-6531 Tami Thu, 28 May 2009 22:50:33 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=3086#comment-6531 The unconditional love of both parents, particularly the primary caretaker, is embedded within the self esteem of every child. I met Debra and her daughter at the Children's Museum when she received yet another award for her book, The Moonbeam Children's Book Award. The connection between Debra and her daughter was ever-present. THIS is the connection that is key to a child's self esteem. What a wonderful gift to give parents and daughters a secret code to help each other through the tough and uncomfortable times, as well as the shining moments. The children who are able to safely share these "heartlight" feelings with their parents are those who will find their self esteem. Tessa's a lucky girl, Lori! And it sounds like any girl who gets to share this experience with her mom is, too. The unconditional love of both parents, particularly the primary caretaker, is embedded within the self esteem of every child.

I met Debra and her daughter at the Children’s Museum when she received yet another award for her book, The Moonbeam Children’s Book Award. The connection between Debra and her daughter was ever-present. THIS is the connection that is key to a child’s self esteem.

What a wonderful gift to give parents and daughters a secret code to help each other through the tough and uncomfortable times, as well as the shining moments.

The children who are able to safely share these “heartlight” feelings with their parents are those who will find their self esteem. Tessa’s a lucky girl, Lori!

And it sounds like any girl who gets to share this experience with her mom is, too.

]]> By: Sheri http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/28/we-went-in-for-chocolate-and-got-self-esteem/#comment-6530 Sheri Thu, 28 May 2009 21:05:00 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=3086#comment-6530 Self esteem is a tough one because I believe each person is individually guided. For one person it might be having a talent in a certain area and feeling accomplishment; for another person it could be feeling good about helping others. Each person's source of self esteem is as unique as a face. It sounds like this book helps to bring out a common language to help parents and daughters (like you and Tessa) to talk. So when she is tuning in to her "heartlight," even if she can't specifically tell you what is important to her self esteem, you both know what you are talking about. So as she feels it, you feel it too. The common term, "heartlight," gives each of you a clue as to what's important to her self esteem. My guess is that if you continue to use this common language, you'll each gather more clues and have a much clearer understanding of what makes her tick. It sounds like a great book for parents and daughters alike. Thanks for such a great review! http://www.oraclesun.blogspot.com/ http://www.coachwithsheri.com/blog/ Self esteem is a tough one because I believe each person is individually guided. For one person it might be having a talent in a certain area and feeling accomplishment; for another person it could be feeling good about helping others. Each person’s source of self esteem is as unique as a face.

It sounds like this book helps to bring out a common language to help parents and daughters (like you and Tessa) to talk. So when she is tuning in to her “heartlight,” even if she can’t specifically tell you what is important to her self esteem, you both know what you are talking about. So as she feels it, you feel it too.

The common term, “heartlight,” gives each of you a clue as to what’s important to her self esteem. My guess is that if you continue to use this common language, you’ll each gather more clues and have a much clearer understanding of what makes her tick.

It sounds like a great book for parents and daughters alike. Thanks for such a great review!

http://www.oraclesun.blogspot.com/
http://www.coachwithsheri.com/blog/

]]> By: Amber Johnson http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/28/we-went-in-for-chocolate-and-got-self-esteem/#comment-6529 Amber Johnson Thu, 28 May 2009 16:37:40 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=3086#comment-6529 I love this post. You are always attuned to special issues and concerns in regards to parenting. My daughter is still young--just turned five and is still oblivious to society's pressures. I have taken the same measures as you but I LOVE the concept of this book. A fantastic recommendation. I love this post. You are always attuned to special issues and concerns in regards to parenting. My daughter is still young–just turned five and is still oblivious to society’s pressures. I have taken the same measures as you but I LOVE the concept of this book. A fantastic recommendation.

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