Comments on: I Can’t Always Watch You http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/07/i-cant-always-watch-you/ Denver parenting, with altitude Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:16:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: chrystiana http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/07/i-cant-always-watch-you/#comment-6402 chrystiana Sun, 24 May 2009 23:23:59 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2810#comment-6402 im new and just read your blog....my son is two and hes done somethings taht you tell him not to do and he ends up hurting himself im new and just read your blog….my son is two and hes done somethings taht you tell him not to do and he ends up hurting himself

]]> By: JoAnn, The Casual Perfectionist http://thecasualperfectionist.com http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/07/i-cant-always-watch-you/#comment-6401 JoAnn, The Casual Perfectionist http://thecasualperfectionist.com Sun, 17 May 2009 00:00:58 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2810#comment-6401 Julie, I'm so sorry that happened to CJ! It's hard to not wrap them in bubble wrap and make them wear a helmet the moment they get out of bed...isn't it? :) Julie, I’m so sorry that happened to CJ!

It’s hard to not wrap them in bubble wrap and make them wear a helmet the moment they get out of bed…isn’t it? :)

]]> By: Lori in Denver http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/07/i-cant-always-watch-you/#comment-6400 Lori in Denver Sun, 10 May 2009 02:43:55 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2810#comment-6400 So scary. And yet, so much better for her to face consequences in a shopping cart at 1 mph than in a car (several years down the road) at 40 mph. You showed great instincts. So scary. And yet, so much better for her to face consequences in a shopping cart at 1 mph than in a car (several years down the road) at 40 mph.

You showed great instincts.

]]> By: Stephanie D http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/07/i-cant-always-watch-you/#comment-6399 Stephanie D Fri, 08 May 2009 04:02:05 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2810#comment-6399 I haven't had to deal with this yet, my son is only 10 months old, but I know it is going to be difficult. My own mother still has issues with this and wants to parent my parenting, but at some point you just have to trust that you have done a good job and your kids are going to have to make mostly the right decisions and learn the rest for themselves. I bet you are right though, you'll probably never have to correct her on the shopping cart again! http://www.becominggreenblog.com I haven’t had to deal with this yet, my son is only 10 months old, but I know it is going to be difficult.

My own mother still has issues with this and wants to parent my parenting, but at some point you just have to trust that you have done a good job and your kids are going to have to make mostly the right decisions and learn the rest for themselves. I bet you are right though, you’ll probably never have to correct her on the shopping cart again!

http://www.becominggreenblog.com

]]> By: Mama Bird http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/07/i-cant-always-watch-you/#comment-6398 Mama Bird Thu, 07 May 2009 23:09:54 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2810#comment-6398 Love this post as I think it deals with one of our greatest fears as mothers: the inability to protect our children from all harm. As Amber says, I often wonder how I will handle watching my daughter make the same mistakes we all make (and hopefully learn from). I know my Mom couldn't stop me from making them. Will my daughter be any different? http://www.mamabirdsblog.com Love this post as I think it deals with one of our greatest fears as mothers: the inability to protect our children from all harm. As Amber says, I often wonder how I will handle watching my daughter make the same mistakes we all make (and hopefully learn from). I know my Mom couldn’t stop me from making them. Will my daughter be any different?

http://www.mamabirdsblog.com

]]> By: Jess http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/07/i-cant-always-watch-you/#comment-6397 Jess Thu, 07 May 2009 21:11:09 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2810#comment-6397 I agree! My girlfriend has always micro-managed her childrens lives. Now the oldest is a teenager and has made several terrible decisions. He was never allowed to fail or make a mistake and deal with the consequenses, he has no concept of self-control because he was never allowed or required to develop one. It seems hard now to see them fall off the cart, but in the long run it's one of the most important things you can do for them. I agree! My girlfriend has always micro-managed her childrens lives. Now the oldest is a teenager and has made several terrible decisions. He was never allowed to fail or make a mistake and deal with the consequenses, he has no concept of self-control because he was never allowed or required to develop one. It seems hard now to see them fall off the cart, but in the long run it’s one of the most important things you can do for them.

]]> By: Holly Hamann http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/07/i-cant-always-watch-you/#comment-6396 Holly Hamann Thu, 07 May 2009 15:11:21 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2810#comment-6396 Great post. I sometimes think its harder on the moms than the kids when something bad happens and there are negative consequences. But think about it this way. You are teaching your daughter valuable lessons at a time when the consequences are relatively safe. Better she learn to respect the danger of a shopping cart when the worst that can happen is it falls on her and scares her than to have her disrespect the power of a vehicle and the consequence is life-threatening later. Sounds like a drastic comparison but its true. Better that our kids learn not to steal and be dishonest when they are young than to have them learn the lesson through adult consequences later. So as heartbreaking as it feels, you really are doing your daughter a loving service by allowing her to struggle with minor consequences now, rather than major ones later. Good for you! Great post. I sometimes think its harder on the moms than the kids when something bad happens and there are negative consequences. But think about it this way. You are teaching your daughter valuable lessons at a time when the consequences are relatively safe. Better she learn to respect the danger of a shopping cart when the worst that can happen is it falls on her and scares her than to have her disrespect the power of a vehicle and the consequence is life-threatening later. Sounds like a drastic comparison but its true.

Better that our kids learn not to steal and be dishonest when they are young than to have them learn the lesson through adult consequences later. So as heartbreaking as it feels, you really are doing your daughter a loving service by allowing her to struggle with minor consequences now, rather than major ones later.

Good for you!

]]> By: Amber Johnson http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/05/07/i-cant-always-watch-you/#comment-6395 Amber Johnson Thu, 07 May 2009 13:19:51 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2810#comment-6395 I agree this is one of the tough parts of motherhood. But just think how difficult it will be when they get older and they make decisions you know will impact their future in a negative way. That, I think, will be my biggest challenge. I agree this is one of the tough parts of motherhood. But just think how difficult it will be when they get older and they make decisions you know will impact their future in a negative way. That, I think, will be my biggest challenge.

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