Comments on: Being a Mom vs. Being a Wife http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/03/17/being-a-mom-vs-being-a-wife/ Denver parenting, with altitude Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:16:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Caloden http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/03/17/being-a-mom-vs-being-a-wife/#comment-5933 Caloden Tue, 24 Mar 2009 04:36:49 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2290#comment-5933 As a divorcee I have to 'fess up that being a wife is way more challenging. Children love you unconditionally and don't learn how to manipulate in a cruel way until puberty. But until then motherhood, while not at all a walk in the park, is far easier than maintaining a relationship. www.caloden.com As a divorcee I have to ‘fess up that being a wife is way more challenging. Children love you unconditionally and don’t learn how to manipulate in a cruel way until puberty. But until then motherhood, while not at all a walk in the park, is far easier than maintaining a relationship.

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]]> By: Born2Shop http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/03/17/being-a-mom-vs-being-a-wife/#comment-5932 Born2Shop Thu, 19 Mar 2009 00:10:26 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2290#comment-5932 I would be in Camp Mom too. Keeping Mr. Wonderful happy is pretty much a 2-step deal: Feed him. Flirt with Him. Done. Being a Mommy however - that is rough business. I mean at least Mr. W is a fully capable person, mostly rational and can be left unattended for long periods of time with almost little worry. Being a Mommy is far more challenging. Their moral character, decision making abilities, personality and future pretty much all depend on you. Plus they get hungry again 10 minutes after they were too full to eat all their dinner AND have to go to the bathroom at every store/location you go to everytime you leave the house. At least you choose your hubby -- your kids? Well you're stuck with them! Ha! I would be in Camp Mom too. Keeping Mr. Wonderful happy is pretty much a 2-step deal: Feed him. Flirt with Him. Done. Being a Mommy however – that is rough business. I mean at least Mr. W is a fully capable person, mostly rational and can be left unattended for long periods of time with almost little worry.

Being a Mommy is far more challenging. Their moral character, decision making abilities, personality and future pretty much all depend on you. Plus they get hungry again 10 minutes after they were too full to eat all their dinner AND have to go to the bathroom at every store/location you go to everytime you leave the house. At least you choose your hubby — your kids? Well you’re stuck with them! Ha!

]]> By: Kagey http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/03/17/being-a-mom-vs-being-a-wife/#comment-5931 Kagey Wed, 18 Mar 2009 23:03:11 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2290#comment-5931 Motherhood is harder, and more complex, I think. I also had 7 years of marriage before children entered the picture, so we had the time to work out rough spots. Marriage isn't a no-brainer by any means, but the tremendous feeling of responsibility that comes with Motherhood, the on-the-job-every-second-ness of it makes it the hardest experience of my life. And is richly rewarding for as a result. ;) Motherhood is harder, and more complex, I think. I also had 7 years of marriage before children entered the picture, so we had the time to work out rough spots. Marriage isn’t a no-brainer by any means, but the tremendous feeling of responsibility that comes with Motherhood, the on-the-job-every-second-ness of it makes it the hardest experience of my life. And is richly rewarding for as a result. ;)

]]> By: diana/sunshine http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/03/17/being-a-mom-vs-being-a-wife/#comment-5930 diana/sunshine Wed, 18 Mar 2009 14:21:21 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2290#comment-5930 for me, motherhood has been harder - for many of the same reasons you and your commenters have mentioned. guiding, nurturing, caring for, and loving a human being from day one is a huge responsibility and as we know, not an easy task. yep, definitely motherhood. www.sunshine-on-my-shoulders.blogspot.com for me, motherhood has been harder – for many of the same reasons you and your commenters have mentioned. guiding, nurturing, caring for, and loving a human being from day one is a huge responsibility and as we know, not an easy task. yep, definitely motherhood.

http://www.sunshine-on-my-shoulders.blogspot.com

]]> By: melissa http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/03/17/being-a-mom-vs-being-a-wife/#comment-5929 melissa Tue, 17 Mar 2009 23:57:21 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2290#comment-5929 being a mom is SO much more difficult. i can ignore my husband. my kids though... and nothing makes me panic the way my kids do. nothing makes me happier than when my kids are happy. and i've never been as hurt as the times my kids are hurt. my husband... he is easy. feed him. occasional marital stuff. good to go. rock and drool...mom gone mental http://www.rockanddrool.com being a mom is SO much more difficult. i can ignore my husband. my kids though…
and nothing makes me panic the way my kids do. nothing makes me happier than when my kids are happy. and i’ve never been as hurt as the times my kids are hurt.
my husband…
he is easy. feed him. occasional marital stuff.
good to go.
rock and drool…mom gone mental
http://www.rockanddrool.com

]]> By: Lori in Denver http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/03/17/being-a-mom-vs-being-a-wife/#comment-5928 Lori in Denver Tue, 17 Mar 2009 21:00:47 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2290#comment-5928 Hillary -- it does seem like a trick at times. Challenge, indeed! Amber -- so right. Husbands had better know better! CP -- it's great that you had an easy time with both. Maybe you offer tutoring? Suzanne -- congrats on your new happiness! Holly -- LOL! Hillary — it does seem like a trick at times. Challenge, indeed!

Amber — so right. Husbands had better know better!

CP — it’s great that you had an easy time with both. Maybe you offer tutoring?

Suzanne — congrats on your new happiness!

Holly — LOL!

]]> By: Holly http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/03/17/being-a-mom-vs-being-a-wife/#comment-5927 Holly Tue, 17 Mar 2009 15:45:56 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2290#comment-5927 I loved this topic on momversation. So far, neither is super rough, but if I chose one, than being a mom is more difficult. I didn't have to go through labor to get my husband. My husband didn't decorate our wall last night with black bean soup like someone else I know. He doesn't puke down my back when we are out in public. I don't have to worry about how to pay for his college education... oh wait, just kidding, 15 years later and we are still paying for that diploma, dang it! Still: mommy life is rougher on this end, great, but a more work. http://whatwasisayingagain1018.blogspot.com/ I loved this topic on momversation. So far, neither is super rough, but if I chose one, than being a mom is more difficult. I didn’t have to go through labor to get my husband. My husband didn’t decorate our wall last night with black bean soup like someone else I know. He doesn’t puke down my back when we are out in public. I don’t have to worry about how to pay for his college education… oh wait, just kidding, 15 years later and we are still paying for that diploma, dang it! Still: mommy life is rougher on this end, great, but a more work.

http://whatwasisayingagain1018.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Suzanne B (Crunchy green Mom) http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/03/17/being-a-mom-vs-being-a-wife/#comment-5926 Suzanne B (Crunchy green Mom) Tue, 17 Mar 2009 15:29:57 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2290#comment-5926 Being a wife. I have been a mother for 17 years, it seems to come a bit effortlessly. Of course they are insane, of course they are crazy, but their insanity makes sense to me. Men? I think their brains are packed away somewhere from me! Perhaps it's the men I chose, because they were more like older children. I am currently dating a wonderful man and we are moving towards the direction of marriage and a life together. This will be the first time in 14 years that I've been married, I've dated people for 3-4 years at a time, however marriage was never something I could wrap my mind around. It seems to come harder for me. I am hoping that time has matured me, and that 17 years of being a mom has taught me how to be a wife. Being a wife.

I have been a mother for 17 years, it seems to come a bit effortlessly. Of course they are insane, of course they are crazy, but their insanity makes sense to me.

Men? I think their brains are packed away somewhere from me! Perhaps it’s the men I chose, because they were more like older children.

I am currently dating a wonderful man and we are moving towards the direction of marriage and a life together.

This will be the first time in 14 years that I’ve been married, I’ve dated people for 3-4 years at a time, however marriage was never something I could wrap my mind around. It seems to come harder for me.

I am hoping that time has matured me, and that 17 years of being a mom has taught me how to be a wife.

]]> By: Momma, The Casual Perfectionist http://thecasualperfectionist.com http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/03/17/being-a-mom-vs-being-a-wife/#comment-5925 Momma, The Casual Perfectionist http://thecasualperfectionist.com Tue, 17 Mar 2009 15:22:56 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2290#comment-5925 My hubby and I have lived together for over 12 years. We lived together for four years before getting married, and we were married for five years before our daughter was born. And, we've been a Family-of-Three for just over 3 years. Is that too much math too early in the day? Anyway... We've been fortunate in that things have always clicked along smoothly for us. We were pretty much experts at our relationship before diving headfirst into parenthood, so I think that made parenthood easier than it could have been, and it also made it easier for our relationship to withstand the hurricane force winds produced by the introduction of a baby to the household. Personally, one hasn't really been harder than the other. I know that sounds like a cop-out, but it's true! I've been trying to weigh them against each other, but they seem pretty equal. We found our groove pretty quickly with both. How lucky is that??" So, that's my answer. For me, it's 6 of one and half-dozen of the other. ;) My hubby and I have lived together for over 12 years. We lived together for four years before getting married, and we were married for five years before our daughter was born. And, we’ve been a Family-of-Three for just over 3 years. Is that too much math too early in the day?

Anyway…

We’ve been fortunate in that things have always clicked along smoothly for us.

We were pretty much experts at our relationship before diving headfirst into parenthood, so I think that made parenthood easier than it could have been, and it also made it easier for our relationship to withstand the hurricane force winds produced by the introduction of a baby to the household.

Personally, one hasn’t really been harder than the other. I know that sounds like a cop-out, but it’s true! I’ve been trying to weigh them against each other, but they seem pretty equal. We found our groove pretty quickly with both. How lucky is that??”

So, that’s my answer. For me, it’s 6 of one and half-dozen of the other. ;)

]]> By: Amber Johnson http://www.milehighmamas.com/2009/03/17/being-a-mom-vs-being-a-wife/#comment-5924 Amber Johnson Tue, 17 Mar 2009 15:22:01 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/?p=2290#comment-5924 I am in the mom camp. Being a mom is rough. My husband doesn't keep me up all night. He doesn't throw tantrums. He doesn't refuse to eat his dinner. Those other little people? Well, it's a good thing they're my kids because there would be problems if my husband ever acted like that. :-) I am in the mom camp. Being a mom is rough. My husband doesn’t keep me up all night. He doesn’t throw tantrums. He doesn’t refuse to eat his dinner. Those other little people? Well, it’s a good thing they’re my kids because there would be problems if my husband ever acted like that. :-)

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