It seems that many people from closed adoptions are made to squirm by the idea of open ones. I think I can understand why.

How affirming that your parents ARE your well.

I am adopted myself. In those days there were only closed adoptions – and the thought of these modern ‘open’ adoptions make me squirm.
It’s great though that your daughter has two beautiful spirits to draw from.

The only thing I ever felt I missed out on was knowing anyone who looked like me. I think it factors in to one’s self esteem – if you can see that you have dad’s nose and mom’s eyes… maybe you can accept your looks during that awkward stage. But I’m not harmed by it that’s for sure.
I wonder what it would have been like to be able to go to the well. But I also know that I have a well at my parent’s house – fills me up and good!

I would love to help you the way others helped me.

Post-Adoption Depression Syndrome is a very real thing. The good news is that it WILL pass, and there are ways to help it move along so you can feel better sooner rather than later.

Let’s get in touch via email. I’ve left you a message on your blog.

You are not alone.

However, with this baby, I’m experiencing feelings and emotions that I never had with our first. After reading your other blog about post adoption depression syndrome, there is now no doubt in my heart that I’m in the midst of that.

In fact, I’ve been looking all over the web to see if adoptive moms can get post-partum depression. I have found very little until this minute! Now that I see a name for this, what do I do? I would appreciate a direct email, if you have time. Thanks.
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The odd thing is, it really hasn’t been that hard.

Thanks for reading and commenting!

You are such a shining example of how to make open adoption work. I think so many of us would let our insecurities prevent us from allowing our adopted children have a close relationship with their birthmom. Thank you for this post!