Comments on: Confessions of a Former Mean Girl

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By: Mo

Mo — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 04:04:54 +0000

I love this post. This is actually a topic that I think of often in all of those “if only I knew then what I know now” moments. I think I’m among the majority of people when I admit that I too have been on both sides of the fence. I’ve taken the hits as well as given them. And I realize now, looking back as an adult, that some of those hits I received stung more than others, and many of them impacted me in a lasting way. It makes me wish so much that we could pass that knowlege on in an effective way when we see kids bullying now. But I also believe that, despite our best efforts, kids will learn the same way we learned as kids. And they too will think to themselves years later “if only I’d known…”

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By: Mo

Mo — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 04:04:30 +0000

By: Ali

Ali — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 18:12:51 +0000

At my daughters middle school the mean girls have been given a name, they are called the P4′s. This stands for ‘Preppy Pretty Purse Posse’, this is because they all wear preppy clothes that are pratically the same (I guess), red bows in their hair on Wednesday, they all carry to school the same type of “pretty purse’ and of course posse speaks for itself. If you aren’t part of this posse, well you are either then classified as, EMO, Goth, Skater, Jock, or what’s worse not even categorized meaning you are NOTHING which is so sad. I guess my daughter is in the EMO/Goth/Skater posse which is funny because I wouldn’t put her in that or any category. I guess she just made friends with that crowd. She definetly is not one of the P4s even though for the last 8 years she has been in the same Dance Acadamy with most of them and you think that common interest would at least put you in the ‘ok’ to be friends with category. They are civil to her at dance (probably because they have to be) but nasty and mean at school which is just crazy. She says that they just glare and gossip about everyone all day long and they make life very difficult. I was hoping that these types of groups would go away, but it just goes on and on and is sometimes worse than when I was in school. It’s a shame.

By: Way More Homemade (Donna)

Way More Homemade (Donna) — Sun, 27 Jul 2008 03:16:56 +0000

Wow… that was good. Thanks for your transparency about it.

http://waymorehomemade.blogspot.com

By: Erin

Erin — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 19:59:25 +0000

I work with school-aged kids in an after school program and I see so much of this kind of behavior. It saddens me how early children learn to be cruel to each other.

I do pay attention, however, and I get involved when things get bad. Shame on your teachers for not calling you girls out. It looks like in the end you learned the lesson you needed, though.

Beautifully well-written post!

http://princessofsomething.wordpress.com

By: Tiffanie

Tiffanie — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 17:41:30 +0000

I am a Young Life volunteer AD and regularly find myself in the public schools, and sadly I think things are a lot worse than when I was a teen. So many cliques and gangs. Kids banding together and against each other. There are still kids crying in the halls, the bathrooms, on the bus and in their homes. While we are teaching our youth to stand up for their individuality and uniqueness, somehow we are failing to teach them to appreciate and respect the same in others.
http://ourlloydlife.blogspot.com

By: confident

confident — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 13:06:09 +0000

My name is not Jackie but I am Jackie. I endured many years of being ostracized by my peers. I was different. Later, as an adult, one of my peers personally apologized. I hope that person realizes what a blessing it was for me. More than that, I hope that person realizes that she is forgiven for what she had done. You see, I may have endured her behavior for 6 or 7 years, but she has to live with the knowledge of her actions for the rest of her life. In the end she has a much worse situation to deal with. I would never want to go through that part of my childhood again but it made me so much stronger and a more empathetic person. My children are learning how to befriend the “Jackies” of the world and I am so proud of them. I realize that you may not be able to find your Jackie but I would be happy to stand in her shoes and tell you and my elementary/middle school peers that, “I forgive you.”

By: Iva

Iva — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 11:14:04 +0000

That took guts; laying yourself out for the world to ‘read’, especially with so many stories of people being bullied and their scars never healing.

I think as adults, we all look back and think, “Why did I do that?” “What was I thinking?”

The best we can do for our children is remember – remember why we bullied and remember how it felt to be bullied – and talk about it with our children.

I really enjoyed your post.

http://www.womanwithin.blogspot.com