Comments on: The Gambler, with apologies to Kenny Rogers http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/ Denver parenting, with altitude Thu, 09 Feb 2012 21:29:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: mothergoosemouse http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2794 mothergoosemouse Mon, 16 Jun 2008 04:40:09 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2794 Geez, C. I feel this way sometimes, and Kyle and I aren't divorced. I'm the mean mommy and he's the cool daddy. But they still love me. So I guess I must be doing okay. And I *know* that you're doing much MORE than merely okay. Geez, C. I feel this way sometimes, and Kyle and I aren’t divorced. I’m the mean mommy and he’s the cool daddy.

But they still love me. So I guess I must be doing okay. And I *know* that you’re doing much MORE than merely okay.

]]> By: Kagey http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2793 Kagey Fri, 13 Jun 2008 23:17:59 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2793 The honest in this blog is so helpful. I'm reminded of a friend who came to visit from out of town. It was the first time she'd seen my home and my kids in their own element. She was actually pleased to see how messy we were, how rambunctious my kids are. She laughingly said she feared they'd be sitting quietly reciting poetry and doing advanced math (they are 4 and 2). As a new mom, the reality of my household made her relax. In the same way, hearing how hard it is for other mamas to do the work of day-to-day disciplining is encouraging to me. It's not easy, it IS messy, and it does work if I'm persistent. Thanks for leading by example, Catherine! The honest in this blog is so helpful. I’m reminded of a friend who came to visit from out of town. It was the first time she’d seen my home and my kids in their own element. She was actually pleased to see how messy we were, how rambunctious my kids are. She laughingly said she feared they’d be sitting quietly reciting poetry and doing advanced math (they are 4 and 2). As a new mom, the reality of my household made her relax.
In the same way, hearing how hard it is for other mamas to do the work of day-to-day disciplining is encouraging to me. It’s not easy, it IS messy, and it does work if I’m persistent. Thanks for leading by example, Catherine!

]]> By: cameo http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2792 cameo Thu, 12 Jun 2008 22:26:20 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2792 nobody said life was perfect. and this notion that it shouldn't be messy, creates mess. i'm a divorced mama too, and it is definately rough on the boys. it's rough on me too, because when i look at them sometimes, they remind me of their father, and that's not always welcome. their dad has moved back to texas and they see him once a year - MAYBE. lucky for them they have a good man raising them and a good grandpa. they don't realize that just yet, but when their old enough to 'get it', they will appreciate the good men in their lives. i struggled with guilt too. but i know it was the right thing. and once again, when they get old enought to 'get it', they will too. i'm VERY open with the boys. and when they act out and i know it's because of issues with their dad and the divorce, i call them out on it. my parents were divorced too. that means we get to pow-wow on the same playing field. that helps. http://www.trompinglightly.blogspot.com nobody said life was perfect. and this notion that it shouldn’t be messy, creates mess.
i’m a divorced mama too, and it is definately rough on the boys. it’s rough on me too, because when i look at them sometimes, they remind me of their father, and that’s not always welcome.
their dad has moved back to texas and they see him once a year – MAYBE.
lucky for them they have a good man raising them and a good grandpa. they don’t realize that just yet, but when their old enough to ‘get it’, they will appreciate the good men in their lives.
i struggled with guilt too. but i know it was the right thing. and once again, when they get old enought to ‘get it’, they will too.
i’m VERY open with the boys. and when they act out and i know it’s because of issues with their dad and the divorce, i call them out on it.
my parents were divorced too.
that means we get to pow-wow on the same playing field. that helps.

http://www.trompinglightly.blogspot.com

]]> By: Shannon (Cole Mine) http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2791 Shannon (Cole Mine) Thu, 12 Jun 2008 04:37:09 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2791 You are a strong, strong Mom. I too have that need to be liked and often feel bad disciplining. But I too want my kids to become, "kind, productive, well-adjusted human beings" so try to put my fragile ego aside. Cheers to virtual tissues, margaritas, hugs all with the background music that is Kenny. Enjoyed your post! http://thecolemine.wordpress.com/ You are a strong, strong Mom. I too have that need to be liked and often feel bad disciplining. But I too want my kids to become, “kind, productive, well-adjusted human beings” so try to put my fragile ego aside.

Cheers to virtual tissues, margaritas, hugs all with the background music that is Kenny.

Enjoyed your post!

http://thecolemine.wordpress.com/

]]> By: Catherine Dix http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2790 Catherine Dix Thu, 12 Jun 2008 02:32:55 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2790 Thanks Karen and Lori! Validation is to a divorced mother as a high-noon nap is to my husband. i.e. SOOOOOO appreciated. Thanks Karen and Lori! Validation is to a divorced mother as a high-noon nap is to my husband. i.e. SOOOOOO appreciated.

]]> By: Lori http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2789 Lori Wed, 11 Jun 2008 23:17:41 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2789 I wonder if post-divorce lack of boundaries is actually more detrimental to the kids than the actual divorce. I think that children take some comfort in having boundaries, in knowing that someone cares enough to set and patrol them. Good on ya. I wonder if post-divorce lack of boundaries is actually more detrimental to the kids than the actual divorce.

I think that children take some comfort in having boundaries, in knowing that someone cares enough to set and patrol them.

Good on ya.

]]> By: Karen http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2788 Karen Wed, 11 Jun 2008 22:06:44 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2788 What a great post. What an important post. At least you corrected the path you were on with your kids. It is so sad to see kids who are from a broken home feel a sense of entitlement because of it! What a great post. What an important post. At least you corrected the path you were on with your kids. It is so sad to see kids who are from a broken home feel a sense of entitlement because of it!

]]> By: catherine dix http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2787 catherine dix Wed, 11 Jun 2008 16:48:48 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2787 Thanks for sharing, Mary. I probably should have qualified the fact that I was compelled to cut out sweets, TV, staying up late, etc. because I realized that my ex and I were BOTH trying to win the hearts and souls of these young children with the good life. So like your friend, I became the big bad wolf when I refocused. Really crappy situation. Thanks for sharing, Mary. I probably should have qualified the fact that I was compelled to cut out sweets, TV, staying up late, etc. because I realized that my ex and I were BOTH trying to win the hearts and souls of these young children with the good life. So like your friend, I became the big bad wolf when I refocused. Really crappy situation.

]]> By: Mary Schultz http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2786 Mary Schultz Wed, 11 Jun 2008 15:07:27 +0000 http://www.milehighmamas.com/2008/06/11/the-gambler-with-apologies-to-kenny-rogers/#comment-2786 I am fortunate to have never gone through a divorce but my best friend did .It was TOUGH with her kids, primarily because she was the discplinarian and her ex let the kids run wild so she was viewed as the bad one. I am fortunate to have never gone through a divorce but my best friend did .It was TOUGH with her kids, primarily because she was the discplinarian and her ex let the kids run wild so she was viewed as the bad one.

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