Comments on: A Lesson on Attachment Detachment Parenting

By: Jody

Jody — Wed, 21 May 2008 14:57:43 +0000

I, like so many others, thought I was supposed to be attached. So I threw myself into the world of slings and such with my first baby. But after a few months I realized a little time in the baby swing wasn’t so horrible. And when baby #2 came along, I just went with my instinct to give each of us a little “space” – and amazingly she’s a much more mellow and much less clingly baby. It makes me wonder if I encouraged my son’s clinginess – you know that whole “nature vs. nurture” bit?

Jody http://milehighmommy.blogspot.com

By: diana/sunshine

diana/sunshine — Wed, 21 May 2008 04:57:40 +0000

i’m your kind of people. i looked forward to each of my children going off to school. we all benefited from that time =)

http://www.sunshine-on-my-shoulders.blogspot.com

By: yvonne

yvonne — Tue, 20 May 2008 19:49:08 +0000

I love to see them go and start new adventures.

I had to laugh because I remember when my VT companion and I each had babies who were about 17 months old. We were counting the days until they would go to Nursery. We began visiting a mom who had a young baby and she asked, “What if you don’t want to send them to the Nursery?” We looked at each other and thought, “Are you nuts???”

By: motherofbun

motherofbun — Tue, 20 May 2008 19:39:11 +0000

Am very much the detached parent. Course when it comes to social stuff (or his grandparents) the boy has always been a “don’t let the door hit you in the butt onthe way out” kind of kid.

Some of those kinds of moms expressed alot of disbelief when I’d tell them Seth was spending the night at a grandparents house now and again within his first year. But now, THEY’RE the ones who find they can’t do a couple’s vacation or have a night out alone without the kids screaming and crying and freaking out. Hmmm. Maybe I’m not such a bad mom to be “dumping off” (at his very attentive grandparents’) my child afterall?

Amber? You’re my kinda mama!

By: Jane B

Jane B — Tue, 20 May 2008 18:14:44 +0000

I have one of each, attached and independant, I’m glad for both personalities, but as they are growing, I realize that they, in the natural course of time will leave home. So the person I find my attachment to is Pat (hubby). As we have aged and grown together, it suits me just fine.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Tue, 20 May 2008 15:53:22 +0000

Loved the, “Hear, hear”

I was very relieved to send each and every one of my boys to pre-school when they were old enough. It gave us both a break from each other. Perhaps the, “Suburban Legend” isn’t climbing the walls to let hers go to school because they entertain each other?…The only reason I didn’t want my boys to go was because I felt guilt because I thought I was SUPPOSED to ache for them to say. Now, I just am honest with myself and I don’t trusy anyone that isn’t ready to let their kids go to pre-school. It isn’t natural

By: Angie

Angie — Tue, 20 May 2008 15:50:00 +0000

I am veering more to attachment because my kids have started veering to detachment. Funny how that works. Couldn’t wait to sign them up for things to get a break. Now that they are all about buddies and friends (they are 5 and 6), I want to be with them more.

KEEP BELIEVING
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By: FFG

FFG — Tue, 20 May 2008 14:02:42 +0000

I’m like you – fairly detached with my independent daughter & attached with my clingy son. She is just too much like me. Overall, I think she’ll be better off for it. Who doesn’t want an independent daughter?

By: Amber Johnson

Amber Johnson — Tue, 20 May 2008 11:13:53 +0000

And yes, I think we can be both!

By: Amber Johnson

Amber Johnson — Tue, 20 May 2008 11:12:51 +0000

I love all these answers. Glad to see so many attached…and detached parenting styles.